skela Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Asked younger guy out and we had date last night. First he got their 5 mins before over started and the movie sucked. After it was done I asked if he wanted to get.something to eat and he said he couldn't because he had a client early in the morning but he would like a rain check so could take me some where nice. We walk back to my car which is in a parking garage and he leaves me at elevator - didn't go up to my car and I reached in for a kiss who h was okay. Is be not into me?
Criticality Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. You're reading too much into things that might not have anything to do with you. (Being late, client in the morning) See if he makes an effort at setting up that dinner he promised you instead. 2
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 I guess my issue is also that I'm looking more for a fwb thing here not a relationship. I assumed he was thinking the same thing. That's why I was a bit surprised I had to make first move and kiss him. And that he wants to go out to dinner. Dinner is nice but I thought we'd be heading off to a hotel or something next lol
Leigh 87 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Most guys who are into me will walk me as far as possible as I need to go, due to them wanting to spend as long as possible with me. First red flag with this guy. Once at my car, the guys who have strong chemistry with me and are highly attracted to me, they always kiss me. They initiate it. Second red flag for you. It could be nothing though and he may be into you still, but going from my experience, unless the girl acts aloof and like she wants to get away from him, the guy will always tens to prolong his time around a girl he is truly into. Let HIM text YOU first, and then eagerly respond of course. Don't play games or hard to get. Though let HIM initiate the next date. If he's into you, he will arrange to se you within a week. 1
Leigh 87 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Even with a FWB, I make sure they are into me. It is about self respect - don't allow a guy who doesn't think highly of you, to have your body. My FWB text me when I get home to say "goodnight gorgeous", they hang with me outside sex, and they text me or msg me on facebook every day just cos they feel like chatting. Don't allow a FWB to feel lukewarm about you; he should REALLY like you, but just lack strong romantic feelings for you.
todreaminblue Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 not all guys will kiss on the first date.like not all women will......he sounded a bit rushed...had a bad day whatever....see if he calls you and sets up a date...to me when a guy wants an fwb they get aggressive fairly early.......
lollipopspot Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I don't think it looks good right now. It's also a little troubling that he didn't at least walk you to your car in a parking garage at night - in my experience most decent guys will do that just to make sure you're safe. 4
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 So I shouldn't even send a thanks had a good time looking forward to doing it again text?
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 So this guy is a little confusing. Everyone on this board thought he wasn't going to go out with me but he did. Why mention a second date if ur not interested. Can't I just say to him I find u extremely attractive and fun to hang out with but because of age difference pursuing a relationship isn't possible interested in being fwb? Just to cut out the bs and the guessing games
Criticality Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I am let down. Don't be. If everybody were wrong about him asking you out, what makes you think they've improved their accuracy about him since? That he mentioned a second date doesn't necessarily have to mean that its in the bag. But it's a good indicator that he's interested, since he didn't have to bring it up, like you pointed out yourself. If you think you're getting mixed signals it could for lots of reasons. He might be attracted, but isn't looking for a relationship. He could have been on a different board, asked for advice and was told he needs to be super respective and take it sloooow. Maybe it's just his style. And of course, he might not be interested at all, though considering that you guys went on a date already, isn't the most likely situation. Since you're looking for a FWB situation and not a relationship, chances are on your side. Even guys that aren't looking for a relationship, or might otherwise be worried that "you have nothing in common" would be happy to go for FWB. So next time you're out, whether dinner or something else, say what you wrote earlier. You find him very attractive, the age difference turns you on, and while you're not interested in a boyfriend, you like to hang out with him. And you'd like to f*** him. Right now. Ten bucks says he'll run up to pay the bill, while trying to hide his boner, and you go back to your place for crazy sex all night long. There's a little chance it won't work. But it's better than losing out because you're unsure of his signals, and he can't make up his mind where to take this.
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 That's very good advice. Maybe he's unsure of what I want. I have been very flirtatious in emails and even last night. He knows I'm attracted to him but maybe isn't sure about what I want from him
StanMusial Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 So this guy is a little confusing. Everyone on this board thought he wasn't going to go out with me but he did. Why mention a second date if ur not interested. Can't I just say to him I find u extremely attractive and fun to hang out with but because of age difference pursuing a relationship isn't possible interested in being fwb? Just to cut out the bs and the guessing games You are the one who is confusing. Why are you wasting time trying to go on dates w/ him and asking schoolgirl questions? Just ask him over to your place or invite yourself to his and touch his wiener.
Criticality Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 That's very good advice. Maybe he's unsure of what I want. I have been very flirtatious in emails and even last night. He knows I'm attracted to him but maybe isn't sure about what I want from him Well if he knows you're attracted to him, he wouldn't have gone on a date with you if you didn't pique his interest in some way. I'm a guy, and if somebody I'm not attracted to asked me for a date, Id come with a bad excuse as to why, instead of going out with her and taking rain checks. Maybe he's gotten some really bad advice about how important it is not to seem to eager with a girl, and how a date might think he's too aggressive if he walks you all the way to her car. Go for it! It's (almost) in the bag! 1
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 U ate right. These are school girl questions and I need to take control. For me the age difference is to much for a relationship I think ur hot I wanna f**k u. U game?
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 I didn't want to just come out and say fwb because I didn't want him to just feel like a piece of meat or a boy toy.
Criticality Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Yes I sure ate right! Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, after all! I understand why you didn't bring up FWB. He was probably saving himself for the right one, tired of women only wanting one thing, and never respecting his heart and soul and what a precious gift he's giving them with every thrust of his virgin penis. (I'm messing with ya. For future reference, chances are that most guys would be fine with FWB. And even it they're not, they'll find your honesty and forward ness refreshing.) 1
truth_seeker Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Lol this dude sounds like an ass wipe. He didn't walk you to the car? As a gentleman, whether you like the girl or not, walk her to her car. It's the gentlemanly thing to do. 5
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 I was talking to a guy friend about this and he said maybe he was a bit intimidated because I'm older. The mixed signals are confusing.
forgetmenot75 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Don't look good to me... I'd say he's not that interested. My advice: don't initiate again. It seems you are doing all the work. Should be the opposite. 2
truth_seeker Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I was talking to a guy friend about this and he said maybe he was a bit intimidated because I'm older. The mixed signals are confusing. Listen to me: I'm a guy and can tell you if I'm into a woman I will do the necessary things to make sure she knows I'm am very interested in her - no mixed signals. I'm shy and can get intimidated at times by some women I find very attractive, but if I get the feeling inside she's a keeper, and she is interested in me, my shyness and intimidation go away fast. There is no holding back. 1
Author skela Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 Well why bother going out with me and asking for a second date. Too much thinking involved. Won't even bother with fwb. Need someone a bit more assertive. Problem is with my work and kids it's hard to get out and meet people. Guys look but don't really approach and yes I do smile at them :-)
truth_seeker Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Well why bother going out with me and asking for a second date. Too much thinking involved. Won't even bother with fwb. Need someone a bit more assertive. Problem is with my work and kids it's hard to get out and meet people. Guys look but don't really approach and yes I do smile at them :-) Politeness. Be nice in person, reject via text or phone call. Sounds like you're very horny and frustrated. Go to the gym and join classes. You will meet men there and you can make friends with women who can introduce you to men.
vagabonder Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I'm in the same boat with you. Busy with kids and work and have a hard time meeting men. They look but don't ask. And I don't know how to broach the fwb with a guy either. I do go to the gym and same scenario. Wish I had answers for us!
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