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Has my love for him fizzled?


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We have been really close friends for over a year.. From the moment I met him last year when I moved in with my grandma (he lives upstairs. how convenient. haha) I knew I liked him. We started hanging out outside or he would come downstairs and we would talk for hours. We only have one day off, and its the same day. We would go out for dinner or out for drinks or to run an errand. We were just friends, but I was seriously falling for him. I didn't know how he felt about me... I knew that he liked me, but I didn't know if he'd liked me enough. At that time, I was hoping he would just randomly kiss me, every day. But nothing ever happened. We just hugged.

 

So one day over the summer, we went to the beach and had a great day. At the evening, we went out to his friends house and his friend was drunk and hitting on me. I clearly found it annoying and was like, wow. So when my friend and I were driving back home, he just started telling me that he told the other dude to leave me alone, and he basically told me how he felt about me. I was so happy, and we started making out when we got back home. We are still going strong.

 

One thing that I cannot understand: I only have one other ex boyfriend (I am 24). With my ex, I was with him for 4 years and I was head over heels the whole entire time. I had this perfect passion for him. And he was a jerk. This guy, I love him. I love everything about him, and I don't want to lose him. I can see a future with him, but since we've been making out, I don't feel anymore butterflies, and I don't have that passion that I had with my ex. I feel like I was even more in love with him before he kissed me, if that makes sense? Am I just getting older or what?? Is this normal or has my love for him fizzled out?

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You watch alot of romance films/disney movies?

 

You like him, the fact you don't have butterflies just means you're comfortable. The butterflies always fizzle out sooner or later. It doesn't mean anything outside of that, imo. Which is actually a good sign.

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Love isn't just physical feelings in your body. Love isn't just passion. I don't know what the issue is. Are those butterfly feelings crucial to you? Are you not sexually attracted to him?

 

Edit: I skimmed over your other threads and you seem to have trust issues. Sorry to be blunt but you're overthinking so many minor things. Just communicate with your boyfriend and see what he says.

Edited by Eivuwan
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