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So it's been 4 months since the brake up. We were together for 5 years and he left me because he wanted to be single and was fed up of ther relationship.

Since the brake up, we haven't talk or see eachother. I've stayed SO strong.

 

I knew he went on vacation with his friends and that he is now on a dating web site just for sex.

 

Now that i've been feeling really good about myself and im starting to move on, he wrote me a text message saying:

 

"Hey (my name), a while went by, just wanted to know how u were doing? .. Hows school? Your family?..."

 

Until now i do not want to answer and leave it like that. Thats what my head is telling me to do. For sure , my heart is broken again. It is SO hard.

 

What do you guys think?!? Why is he doing this? What happens now that i will not answer him??? :'(

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So it's been 4 months since the brake up. We were together for 5 years and he left me because he wanted to be single and was fed up of ther relationship.

Since the brake up, we haven't talk or see eachother. I've stayed SO strong.

 

I knew he went on vacation with his friends and that he is now on a dating web site just for sex.

 

Now that i've been feeling really good about myself and im starting to move on, he wrote me a text message saying:

 

"Hey (my name), a while went by, just wanted to know how u were doing? .. Hows school? Your family?..."

 

Until now i do not want to answer and leave it like that. Thats what my head is telling me to do. For sure , my heart is broken again. It is SO hard.

 

What do you guys think?!? Why is he doing this? What happens now that i will not answer him??? :'(

 

Don't answer. It's breadcrumbs.

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I agree. Breadcrumbs. Maybe he is lonely or bored. If he wanted you back he'd have written more and maybe he will...for now stay SILENT. More will be revealed. If he wants you back he should have to EARN you back.

 

Because you are as valuable as you teach him you are.

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I feel so good that i haven't write one single word... Never taught i was going to be this strong. Doing no contact was so easy for me and it was helping me heal. But now that he wrote makes me think that he still thinks of me. It feels "good"... But at the same time, i still want to have the power.

 

 

By not answering, will he get the message that i dont want to talk/be/see him again? Or hes gonna think that im still mad at him???

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I feel so good that i haven't write one single word... Never taught i was going to be this strong. Doing no contact was so easy for me and it was helping me heal. But now that he wrote makes me think that he still thinks of me. It feels "good"... But at the same time, i still want to have the power.

 

 

By not answering, will he get the message that i dont want to talk/be/see him again? Or hes gonna think that im still mad at him???

 

Honestly, it doesn't matter what he thinks. At all.

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Honestly i think its better when they dont writte at all. Now im asking myself what does he want. Whats next?

It was 5 years. Letting go is not that easy :(:( i loved him so much.

Getting all emotional again. This sucks

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So it's been 4 months since the brake up. We were together for 5 years and he left me because he wanted to be single and was fed up of ther relationship.

Since the brake up, we haven't talk or see eachother. I've stayed SO strong.

 

I knew he went on vacation with his friends and that he is now on a dating web site just for sex.

 

Now that i've been feeling really good about myself and im starting to move on, he wrote me a text message saying:

 

"Hey (my name), a while went by, just wanted to know how u were doing? .. Hows school? Your family?..."

 

Until now i do not want to answer and leave it like that. Thats what my head is telling me to do. For sure , my heart is broken again. It is SO hard.

 

What do you guys think?!? Why is he doing this? What happens now that i will not answer him??? :'(

 

 

Wow , its great to see you being so strong right after break up. How did you maintain NC . Some tips please..

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He's trying to get break the ice and get a feeler on what your feelings are towards him.

 

Just keep up the NC, don't even budget an micro meter. I don't think he is worth taking back after he signs up for a dating site for sex. (How did you find that out anyways? Are you sure this is true?)

 

Things won't be the same and it would just open up more wounds for you.

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Emma1234 Established Member

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Stay strong. I got the same. Breadcrumbs after a few months. DO. NOT. REPLY.

 

Trust me, it'll set you back, plus the power feels very good and helped me move on. If you reply you will lose that.

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Put a smile on knowing you're on his mind.

 

Put a smile on that boosts your ego.

 

Stay strong congrats on not replying.

 

Very well done, you only reply when their intentions have been made very clear not just chit chat, ain't nobody got time for that.

 

 

 

Barky

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Do not reply! He's boring and testing the waters. He probably doesn't want you back. If you reply, you'll regret it and you'll feel miserable.

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It's all about you from this point forward, you are now in control of your destiny. Continue to make progress as you are all that matters.

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He signed up at plenty of fish, looking to date but nothing serious and making sexual references... Like "i will end up putting a smile on your face ;)"

Hes a pig. and i know this because one of my friends its on the same site, for different reasons obviously!

 

I need to stay strong! Its been really hard knowing that stuff...

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Wow , its great to see you being so strong right after break up. How did you maintain NC . Some tips please..

Honestly, everytime i wanted to text him, i used to send the message to all my close friends and they used to tell me: dontttt! They used to give me that speech that i need to think about myself first and that its not worth it. It used to help me all the time.. Plus, i felt so good not writting to me because he already had the power to end relationship like a coward.... So i needed a little bit of power and hurt his ego. The easiest part for me was going no contact. The hardest part is missing him, memories, knowing hes with other girls... But always kept my healing for myself... And share my feeling with my friends. You have to stay strong. No contact is the best thing u can do!

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feels "good"... But at the same time, i still want to have the power.

 

So rather then have the person you love you rather have a meaningless power over them? Is that more meaningful to you then a relationship with the man you love? If so then that is your choice.

 

I would stick to NC though because I doubt your situation will get any better with him, it rarely ever does. You are very strong keep it up we are here for you. I am going through somewhat the same situation but the relationship was only half a year, still a lot of feelings involved. And she is contacting me after a month of being broken up, saying she cant believe i have moved on etc etc when she was the one who broke up with me...

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