LK30 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Hi all, I've been seeing my girl for 6 months and she's amazing. Pretty, kind, generous, polite and just a lovely lady I've always wanted. She asked me last night how many women I've slept with and I said 10. She then told me I'm her 22nd. She said she was in a LTR from about 21 to 32 (she separated last year) but was a wild teenager, got into wrong crowd and was vulnerable. I kind of reacted a bit shocked and she noticed. She said she's really embarrassed and it was 15 years ago. For some reason it did bother me quite a bit. I asked her if she'd been 'tested' and she said she felt offended I'd asked as she was checked when she had her daughter (or before I can't remember). It's playing on my mind and I'm having doubts about her but it was years ago. I can't believe she had about 20 men in her teens! Am i being unreasonable and snobby? Why can't I accept it and get over it?
ls32ssibm Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Hi all, I've been seeing my girl for 6 months and she's amazing. Pretty, kind, generous, polite and just a lovely lady I've always wanted. She asked me last night how many women I've slept with and I said 10. She then told me I'm her 22nd. She said she was in a LTR from about 21 to 32 (she separated last year) but was a wild teenager, got into wrong crowd and was vulnerable. I kind of reacted a bit shocked and she noticed. She said she's really embarrassed and it was 15 years ago. For some reason it did bother me quite a bit. I asked her if she'd been 'tested' and she said she felt offended I'd asked as she was checked when she had her daughter (or before I can't remember). It's playing on my mind and I'm having doubts about her but it was years ago. I can't believe she had about 20 men in her teens! Am i being unreasonable and snobby? Why can't I accept it and get over it? Because your jealous and immature. You'll either need to get over it fast and legitimately or you'll end up losing her. Those are the only two options - I've seen this play out one hundred times and went through it myself too. Future reference - don't ask don't tell with respect to numbers.
Author LK30 Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Thanks - that was to the point! I'll probably lose her but would like to find a way to deal with it!
ConstantVoyager Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Apologize for your reaction and never mention it to her again. Realize that she had a life before she met you that has nothing to do with your relationship.
Author LK30 Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Yes I think you're right! I don't know why it's bothering me so much!
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