crying pianist Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I met this guy through a project initiated by my mentor. Contrary to my mentor concern (it seems that my love interest did not have much respect for others & most people find it hard to work with him) I hit it off very well with him & the project was a great success. There is also a great deal of understanding & respect in this art collaboration. Throughout the course of the project, there was a lot of teasing & flirting on his side. He will often find ways to irritate me & touch my hair. There are also flirty text & fb msgs, constantly calling me his queen. However, we had a disagreement & i got pissed off with him. I though we had resolved it as I started talking to him again & everything seems fine. My friend & I went to his art opening 2mths later & i was completely ignored. Not only did he ignore my calls, he picked up my friend call & warmly gave him a hug while I find myself terribly embarrassed when he did not return my hug. And there's also this young lady hanging around him & we had not talked since then. It had been 2 wks now. Im kinda confused now as to whether he is still interested or am just playing around. and its not helping too the fact that he was locked away in prison for 10 years for gangster activities. But he is now giving back to society & am entering politics soon. I do have a keen interest in him but i have 2 groups of supporters too. One is questioning why shall I be involved with someone like that & one is encouraging me cos he is a changed man. Im not looking at marriage but will like to maybe date him first but Im confused with what he is telling me or not telling? How do I know if he's still keen without me asking him? shall I pursue him? and i may be his first woman too. given that he has little understanding or stereotype view of woman.
crederer Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 The gangster life has a way of pulling you back in or following you around after you;ve made the decision to quit it. Stepped on a few too many toes, has a few favours he "owes" people, easy quick money while in a bind, etc. I wouldn't recommend pursuing this further for that reason alone, let alone a number of other reasons you pointed out. 2
Philosopher Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 What people did in the past, is in the past and so shouldn't really matter, so long as they have genuinely changed and have turned their back on their previous ways. However that said, since you say he completely ignored you at his art opening, my thoughts would be that he was playing around and he is not that interested.
ls32ssibm Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 If you are indeed running for elected office (or plan to one day) this will certainly be dirt for the opposition. "Gangster activities"? I'd cut this one loose. 2
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