shattered Inside Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Hi, such a difficult task to be decent and humble with the person who betrayed you and made your life miserable like hell ...The worst part is that you have to associate with her because of a kid ..every time you talk or come face to face ,it really becomes so difficult to control your emotions ......................i don't want to see her face ....please tell me how do i do it???? its bloody so very annoying and difficult ..................................God where are you ????????????????why are you doing this with ????????????????????????????????me??????????????????????????????????????? help please
Yasuandio Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) Find a way NOT TO see her face on pick-ups and drop-offs. This is what is rhilliing you up. You are needing NC badly - so that you can pull yourself togther (but LC seems the only option). So - the solution, is to get creative. Here are a few ideas: 1. Stay is the car, reach over and open the door (or to the backseat door). Let child approach. Explain procedure via text. Let this become a habit. Drop off, same method. Adults can stay in the car. Any worries about that, then meet at the police station. 2. Make exchanges after dark, if possible. 3. If it is legal in your area, get some temporary window tinting on your car. 4. Have a friend with you to go out to her car to get the kids, or bring them back to her. 5. She will try to approach the car and look in out of curiosity, like you are an effing zoo animal. Always have your nice new aftershave, sporty dark shade, and rock'in shirt and jeans on. Get a good stylish haircut, and start using some mouuse or something stylist recommends that gives your hair that cool spiky look. Go nowhere without looking HOT. This is for you, as well. Maybe a little Miami Vice overgrown shadow on pick-up. U get me? Man, it is your PRIDE that is hurting more than anything. Once you start enjoying #5 above, you will love the meet and greet - I promise you. Study the 180's - and try to protect yourself from her face till you get your mojo back. You are going to be ok. See 180's in link below. You might like the Homer article in that link. Rooting for ya! You can do this. Worldgonewrong went thru same crap - you remind me of him in the beginning. He will probably look into your thread. Look up his story via his name (Through th Separation Jungle). You will learn a lot. Yas PS. There is no law that says you have to "acknowledge" her. If she questions the new methodology, simply tell her the truth. You're simply trying to avoid getting nauseated. Edited October 18, 2013 by Yasuandio
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