Zoyalover Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Ok so, I did it. I saw him mostly all this week after trying to do NC the week before. I stopped because he said that he would never contact me again. Stupid, I know. So on the last night I spent with him we ended up having sex, and of course I had a delayed emotional reaction to it (I always do). Yesterday I was alone and cried and cried and cried. I thought about what went wrong, why we can't be together and how I can fix it I failed to mention that the day after we had sex, I cleaned up his place and cooked for him he called me and told me thank you and texted me thank you yesterday morning and I have not heard from him at all since. So I'm thinking several things... -I did way too much to where I pushed him away -He is stopping himself from "feeling" by not contacting me and feeding into my support -He is not contacting me to show me that we are not in a relationship -He isn't contacting me because he wants space to think -He isn't contacting me because he's busy That's all I can think of right now but I know for sure that I am so tired if crying. I'm so tired of being there for him and supporting him and not getting the same in terms if being with him in a relationship. I have been talking to some people and doing a lot if thinking... Someone told me the other day that it is mind over matter, and that I can just "turn the page" and move on, but for me it is sooo hard and I don't know why I can't just walk away. I want to some days, and other days I want to wait around for him, and other days I just want to forget that he and this relationship ever existed. Is it possible for me to get over him while still being in contact? We said that we would be friends still but that is so difficult for me right now since I still love him deeply. I told him numerous times that I would need time without talking to him for me to get over him and when it happened he couldn't handle it which is why he said that he would "never contact me again". I really want to feel better, be positive and move on but I am struggling, can you guys help me out please? Thanks, Z
sweetheart5381 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Ok so, I did it. I saw him mostly all this week after trying to do NC the week before. I stopped because he said that he would never contact me again. Stupid, I know. So on the last night I spent with him we ended up having sex, and of course I had a delayed emotional reaction to it (I always do). Yesterday I was alone and cried and cried and cried. I thought about what went wrong, why we can't be together and how I can fix it I failed to mention that the day after we had sex, I cleaned up his place and cooked for him he called me and told me thank you and texted me thank you yesterday morning and I have not heard from him at all since. So I'm thinking several things... -I did way too much to where I pushed him away -He is stopping himself from "feeling" by not contacting me and feeding into my support -He is not contacting me to show me that we are not in a relationship -He isn't contacting me because he wants space to think -He isn't contacting me because he's busy That's all I can think of right now but I know for sure that I am so tired if crying. I'm so tired of being there for him and supporting him and not getting the same in terms if being with him in a relationship. I have been talking to some people and doing a lot if thinking... Someone told me the other day that it is mind over matter, and that I can just "turn the page" and move on, but for me it is sooo hard and I don't know why I can't just walk away. I want to some days, and other days I want to wait around for him, and other days I just want to forget that he and this relationship ever existed. Is it possible for me to get over him while still being in contact? We said that we would be friends still but that is so difficult for me right now since I still love him deeply. I told him numerous times that I would need time without talking to him for me to get over him and when it happened he couldn't handle it which is why he said that he would "never contact me again". I really want to feel better, be positive and move on but I am struggling, can you guys help me out please? Thanks, Z No, you absolutely cannot get over him if you are still in contact. He is using you completely. He is manipulating you when he threatens "I will never contact you again." He assumes you will contact him then, thereby stroking his ego AND putting himself in the position to not have to do anything in the "relationship". Is that what you really want in a man? He is disrespecting you! Respect yourself and go NC. You can do it.
Zahara Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Is it possible for me to get over him while still being in contact? We said that we would be friends still but that is so difficult for me right now since I still love him deeply. I told him numerous times that I would need time without talking to him for me to get over him and when it happened he couldn't handle it which is why he said that he would "never contact me again". Z Is it possible seeing how emotional you are? No. Let's say in two weeks you hear that he is seeing another woman, having sex with her. Will you be able to handle it? He wants a break-up but won't let you have NC because he can't take it. What a phukking cake eater. Selfish prick. 1
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