im_thedude Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) It's about two and a half months post break up for me (details in an earlier thread) and my progress has seemed to plateau. There is no hope for reconciliation anymore, which is good - but I still can't get her out of my mind. I've been in no contact for over a month now, other than a pair of texts asking for my stuff back. She has a ton of stuff that I gave her over the years, but I made it extremely clear just a couple weeks after the break up that I only need two things back. One of them is a hockey jersey from when I was a kid, and the other a photo of my best friend and I. I've asked multiple times for these TWO items back, which even in a messy room would take about two minutes to locate. To make it easier on her and to prevent having to see each other, I even asked her to please drop the stuff off at my friends house which is on her way to work. In my mind, I couldn't have made it any easier on her. Yet, she has told me each time that she has been too busy to find the time. The second time she mentioned how she still has to wash some of my clothes to give back, despite me saying I didn't want anything back but the two items. Again, it's been over two months and she's somehow still been too busy. I call BS and think she is just being a massive jerk. I'm at the point where I really just want to cut off this final reason for communication and be done with this all. I'm so tired - physically and mentally - of thinking about this person who isn't in my life. For my well being, I don't want to just be patient and wait for it to come anymore. I want it done as soon as possible and have this book closed. I told my friend to text her and ask when she plans on bringing the stuff over, and to let me know if she gives him the same BS about being too busy. If she does say that, what do I do? I was fantasizing about going off on her about how disrespectful and inept she is, but I feel that would be a hollow victory. I still do have a strong urge to let her know how I really feel about her (not a lot of good things, to say the least) before never talking to her again, since I feel like my last impressions were bad ones, what with me being on my knees and all. I really want to text her telling her to just send my crap over already so I never have a reason to contact her again. How do I get over this seemingly final hurdle? Is calling her out on her **** the wrong move? Edited October 18, 2013 by im_thedude
Never Again Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 By dragging her feet, she's keeping a connection with you. She may not know she's doing it, but I'll bet you that it makes her feel better. It's an element of control over you. You have every right to be frustrated. I know these items are important to you, but I would just cut the cord. Go NC. Don't let her continue to bother you. You never know - when you cut her off, she may suddenly find the need to get things back to you.
Author im_thedude Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 By dragging her feet, she's keeping a connection with you. She may not know she's doing it, but I'll bet you that it makes her feel better. It's an element of control over you. You have every right to be frustrated. I know these items are important to you, but I would just cut the cord. Go NC. Don't let her continue to bother you. You never know - when you cut her off, she may suddenly find the need to get things back to you. Well, as I said I had told my friend to ask for an update on the stuff. She said she'll bring it by his place sometime next week. I'm betting on her conveniently not getting around to it.
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