jphcbpa Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I recommend, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover
Author Kingkaneda Posted October 24, 2013 Author Posted October 24, 2013 (edited) She told me her last relationship ended in april and since then she had 2 dates that didnt go anywhere. With me it went further cause she felt the connection, but after 2 weeks she had this block right after I confessed I love her. She also told me it has nothing to do with another guy. She really seems sincere. I just barely managed the no contact rule today. I knew she was going to a concert and I really wanted to ask her how it was. 2 or 3 times I was already making a text message to send her, and I deleted it in stead of sending. Its ridicilous I know, but this girl has really gotten to me in only 1 month. For me it totally isnt only about the sex. The sex is great with her, but I really just want her to be my girl. My plan is to try to keep this no contact thing going till Saturday. Fridaynight should be the hardest time for her, cause she doesnt have any plans and just sits at home watching series. Its a longshot at best, but Im hoping she will miss me and contact me. If she doesnt Ill probably fess up to her that I miss her on saturday, after wich I will probably be friendzoned for life with her. That sounds like a good read for me indeed. Edited October 24, 2013 by Kingkaneda
misskaedy Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Hi there, Im new to this forum and Id like some advice/support. Might be a bit of a long story, I appreciate the time you take to read it. Also Im from Holland so my english might be off. I just came out of a 6 year long relationship wich ended about 5 months ago. We lived together for 5 years and she didnt feel the love for me anymore. I was pretty shocked and broken when it happened, and became really needy. Calling her/texting her to give it another chance. Didnt work at all. So after about 3 months of living in this needy self pity hell, I had enough and focussed on my life again. Going to the gym, hanging out with friends alot and started dating. I was feeling better again and totally getting over my ex. I was in a good place. Then after 1 month of dating I met this girl and we really hit it of on the first date. We only chatted 1 evening, and met up the evening after it. Went out for dinner, talked all evening till she had to catch one of the last trains. I brought her to the station and waited with her. We kissed till the traindoors closed, and I had a great feeling! Then when I walked to my bike, she sent me a text that shed wish i had went with her. I took the next train to her city and she waited to pick me up. I slept over and we had sex. Ive never had sex with any girl on the first date but it felt right. Damn I was happy. We saw eachother about 5-6 days a week for 2 weeks. Id go to work, go to the boxing gym and then go to her. Id sleep over and go to work from her place. We texted alot when we werent together. And every time we saw eachother we had sex. Every date was a sleepover. I remember thinking this is going really fast, but I was falling madly in love so I didnt care. After 2 week i put on facebook that she was my girlfriend, and she accepted. The next day I told her I loved her! Oh man I wasnt holding back anything! The the day after she texted me: were going too fast I want to slow things down. Ouch! It hurt a bit, but I understood. We decided to see eachother only 3-4 days a week. Everytime we met we had a great time. Always holding hands, hugging, kissing laughing. We increased our texting because we saw eachother less often. We both texted that we missed eachother alot. After 2 weeks of slowing down she hit me with this text: I really dont think I want a relationship with you. I like you, and I really like being together, but I think you have more feelings for me than I have for you. I went into the same stupid routine as I did with my ex: Give me a chance we had such a great time etc. Didnt work. I asked her if this meant that she never wanted to see me anymore. She said yes i think so. I had seen her 2 days prior to this message, and she hadnt said anything. Ugh. Ok i was pretty down but decided it would be better to not contact her anymore. After 2 days of no contact she send ne a text: hey how are you? im worried about you. We te texted for a while and she told me it was harder to not see me than see would have thought. Then came this request: can we still keep talking and sometimes meet up and hug and such? But no sex. I told her it would be impossible for me not to kiss her. Then the conversation went to sex. And in the end i texted: what would happenif I was at your place right now? She answered: Wed probably kiss and have sex. But at the same time she makes it clear she doesnt want a relationship, and she diesnt want a sex relationship either. Ugh! Im still in love with her, and I have to pick up some of my things from her house next monday. Im planning on no contact unless she contacts me till monday. Foolishly hoping that she will miss me this weekend so that she might reconsider monday. Should I no contact? What should I do when she texts? And should I go for the kiss on monday? Last time I saw her was 5 days ago. We slept together and everything seemed great. Just this breakup texting is killing me! Wow, you are from The Netherlands? I have always wanted to live there.
Author Kingkaneda Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 Wow, you are from The Netherlands? I have always wanted to live there. Haha so random, cracked me up:lmao:
myothernic2 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 She told me her last relationship ended in april and since then she had 2 dates that didnt go anywhere. With me it went further cause she felt the connection, but after 2 weeks she had this block right after I confessed I love her. She also told me it has nothing to do with another guy. She really seems sincere. I just barely managed the no contact rule today. I knew she was going to a concert and I really wanted to ask her how it was. 2 or 3 times I was already making a text message to send her, and I deleted it in stead of sending. Its ridicilous I know, but this girl has really gotten to me in only 1 month. For me it totally isnt only about the sex. The sex is great with her, but I really just want her to be my girl. My plan is to try to keep this no contact thing going till Saturday. Fridaynight should be the hardest time for her, cause she doesnt have any plans and just sits at home watching series. Its a longshot at best, but Im hoping she will miss me and contact me. If she doesnt Ill probably fess up to her that I miss her on saturday, after wich I will probably be friendzoned for life with her. That sounds like a good read for me indeed. And if she throws you another bone just to do the same thing in two weeks? You're willing to risk disapointment after disappointment, instead of dealing with the pain once and moving on? If you think that's the best, okay.
Author Kingkaneda Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 And if she throws you another bone just to do the same thing in two weeks? You're willing to risk disapointment after disappointment, instead of dealing with the pain once and moving on? If you think that's the best, okay. Yeah I know it's stupid. I should focus on myself and finding someone who really goes for me. Im just pretty weakwilled when it comes to her. I will fetch the bone when she throws it and take another slap for doing so. At this point im so ridicilousy eager for her to throw the bone one more time. To give me one more chance to show whats shes missing out on. Going out with some friends tonight but not really in the mood for it. Hope it will lift my spirits anyway.
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