organizedchaos Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Not what I was expecting and not with my ex gf who broke up with me 3 months ago. The recent bu was due to my ex gf after almost 3 years due to GIGS, needing to "grow" more, blah, blah, blah. Hurt me bad. LC for awhile, now NC. However, 2 months before I met my ex gf (this is now over 3 years ago) I dated this girl I fell for pretty quick but it was very short lived, not even a relationship. We went out a few times and I thought hit it off very well. Didn't sleep with her but got pretty close. She ended it b/c she didn't feel a "connection". I was hurt but got over it. The next month I joined match.com and got in to this recent relationship. That girl and I were connected on FB and I didn't defriend her after she broke it off. We weren't in love and it was so short lived so I didn't care if we stayed connected. So she was able to see my relationship as it progressed with my ex. We had maybe one or two exchanges during this time but otherwise, she dropped off my radar completly. Until a week ago. I never changed my relationship status on my profile. I never indicate it, my ex never indicated it, we just weren't those people. So when my relationship ended, I never had that embarrassing post "...is now single". I never posted anything about my bu on my profile (I did defriend my ex immediately). So for the last three months, the only way someone could deduce my relationship has ended would be due to the fact I hadn't posted anything about her or with her in some time. So a week ago, this other girl I dated 3 years ago, whom I've had zero contact with in at least 2 years and never looked back at again, starts liking several of my profile photos and posts on one "Looking good! Hope you are well!". It piqued my interest, I checked out her profile, she appeared to be single and still looked hot, very hot. So I send her a message. "Hi there, how've you been?" She responds not long after about the fact that's doing great, so much has happened...and that "we should catch up soon!". So I'm really interested and respond saying we should and see what her schedule is like the coming week. She says "evenings are best ;)" and gives me her number again. The next day I text her and we have a series of exchanges about various things. Then we setup drinks for last night. We meet up at a bar and she looks amazing. She comments on how well I look too and we proceed to have a very nice conversation about what has been going on the past 3 years. Talk career, relationships - she had a 1 year and lots of really, really bad dates. I talk a little about mine since she knows and how it ended. But we move on to other topics and it's light and very fun. It was like 3 years ago was yesterday. We didn't get drunk, only had two drinks the entire time she had one. 2 hours later I walk her home. We get to the door, I turn to her and say, "How about we try this again and go out on a real date when I'm back?" (I'm going to Europe in a week). She smiles and says "That would be great" and we hug for a long moment. She goes in to her place and I go home, smiling. I post this bc while it is not like a second chance with someone I was in love with, I think it goes to show you just NEVER know who or when someone is going to realize that maybe they were wrong and come back in to your life. So much time has passed with this girl that the past is the past and I had no issues seeing her. I was laid back, confident, talked about my accomlishments, my coming European vacation, etc...we didn't dwell on the short time we went out or what happened between us. There was no need. This was brand new again but familiar. So I think it just shows that if someone who I only dated can come back around to try it again, even 3 years later, than anything is possible with someone you had a passionate, loving relationship with if you just let things be. I don't know what's going to happen this time around, but I have an open mind. 2
Simon Phoenix Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Awesome story. I've had a few exes like this come back around after a long time apart. It just shows that you never know how the universe is going to work itself out and that it's better to go with the flow instead of trying to control everything. Best of luck however this ends up -- I'm guessing you are going to be all right either way. 1
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