my03 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I met this girl through a friend a few months ago who is new to the country. For the past few months we have been meeting up almost weekly, dinner, movies, lunches, just hanging out whatever just us two. At first I thought nothing of her but recently ive been attracted to her. We never really flirt and shes shy (not the flirty type) so i'm not getting any definite signals. I'm not sure if this girl is interested in being more than friends, maybe she like me thats why we hang out on the regular, or maybe shes new to the country and got no one else and only sees me as a friend? how can i tell? it's getting to the point where im curious to take it further. Do you think she would let me crack onto her? is there anyway of doing it without ruining the friendship? Is there anyway of doing it without it being weird since we've been hanging out as friends for quite some time? I was thinking of meeting up tomorrow and doing out usual hang out then asking if she wants to stay the night? Any advice would be greatly appreciated Thanks
Versacehottie Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 i would go ahead a take a crack...but asking her to spend the night might be a touch speedy for current status. Since you said she was shy and since the answer of how to approach this isn't just popping straight into your head, why don't you scale it back a touch, slow your roll and do some outright flirting, and with a positive response go for hand holding, cuddling touching and kissing. I do think that it's positive that she is hanging out with you all the time....and she will likely be interested in you as well. Although if you ask her to spend the night it's just confusing....0 to 60...and will feel like a booty call without having prior lead up to. Lastly, if you really like her and think you'd like to date her/have her as a girlfriend, wait a while to ask her to spend the night. It will just confuse her and you. Even if you end up making out, take things a little slower and treat with respect tomorrow--you will actually get further with her in every sense. As far as not messing up a friendship if things don't work out, I don't know that there is any way to have a perfect balance of wanting more and preserving the friendship. It all depends on the persons involved and how everything goes down. There is no guarantee--but sometimes you just have to go for it and take the risk because what you will gain is what you want anyway. Good luck.
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