wanting more Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 xMM did a lie detector test at the request of his BW. he lied and passed.
Spark1111 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Uh, it's yes or no questions only.... Such as, have you spoken or seen AP since this date? etc....
Spark1111 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 xMM did a lie detector test at the request of his BW. he lied and passed. then perhaps he is a sociopath....or has taken one before, or lied about it to you. the average honest person WILL have a physiological response to lying, especially when hooked up to wires measuring heart rate, pulse, etc. baseline questions in a yes, no response are elicited first...such as is your name John Smith? Were you born on this date. very unassuming stuff. Statistically, women are better able to beat the test because they are better able to believe their lies are truths....It's our emotional component that can muddy the testing results.
wanting more Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 I don't know how many questions were asked. I know of a couple. I also know he lied I only know this because of the conversations between his BW and my BSO. things my BSO knew but his BW didn't want to believe. One question (his BW was so sure he would've never done) was did he ever send naked pics of himself to me. He answered no. My BSO had actually seen them when he discovered the A on my phone. Also had xMM ever said he loved me. Again he answered no, and again my BSO has the text from xMM saying exactly that. It may work sometimes but not all.
Oberfeldwebel Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 First I think you have to decide, what you want this exam to tell you. Secondly, you have to understand what the polygraph tells you. Lastly, now that you have the information what do you want to do? Polygraphs are not lie detectors, that is the job of the examiner and only as good as his talents. A good examiner will have you limit to one or two core questions, but they are going to ask many questions. The questions will be basic questions that you would have no need to lie about to get a base line of your responses. Next they are going to mix in the core questions, phrased differently to measure your response. They are good at questions like: did you ever have sex with that person? They are not good at questions like: did you love that person? Love is less measurable and somewhat subjective by nature, so stick to action type questions. A good examiner, with good questions will be highly successful. Few people will fool the examiner. However, they can get inconclusive results and that is what it is....period. The bottom line is trying to get the truth in a hope to rebuild trust. You can't do this everyday to every question that you have asked. WS have lied so much that they have painted themselves in a corner. They will even continue lies to mundane questions, even when you know they are lying. When your relationship gets to this point, there is little hope for change. There is nothing that says that if your spouse has been unfaithful that you have to divorce, that decision is yours. If infidelity is a die on the sword issue for you, then a polygraph can be effective tool. I am all for using technology and other means to give you information in the short term. However, don't waste your time doing this for extended periods of time. If you have to constantly be your partners boundary keeper, life won't be much fun. Honesty is the cornerstone to every relationship. If you don't have honesty, you have no relationship.
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