DannyCA Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 To give a little back story, I am 21 and my ex is 20. I truly believe now she suffered from "The Grass is Greener Syndrome". We spent about 8-9 months together, but officially dated for 6 months. We haven't seen each other in 10 months, been BU for 8 months, and have had NC for 2 months. The thing is that for the 6 months she was 1,000 miles away because she had some financial issues and had to live with her parents to save money (if not she would still be here.) I have no complaints about the relationship at all except for the last 3 weeks when she started acting weird towards me. She wasn't even supposed to be gone for more than a year, but I guess things just changed. Long story short, she was basically abandoned by her parents her senior year of high school. Her parents separated for a while and she lived alone for half a year. She found comfort in partying and men. Although I am the second guy she has ever slept with. We were just so damn good together, words just can't describe what what I felt when I talked to her and was around her, and I know she felt the same way (at least until T.G.I.G.S), even her best friend told me that I am the first guy she has ever been herself around ever (even before her issues came about.) Honestly idk if we were even supposed to meet. We went to the same high school and worked at the same place for years but didn't know each other even existed (our high school had only 1,000 kids). We went to different colleges hundreds of miles apart but decided to come back to our summer jobs one last time the same summer…we started dating that summer. At what point do you draw the line between being too early in adolescence to know what love is and stumbling across your true love in adolescence? P.S. I unfollowed her on instagram and deleted my facebook so I wouldn't see what she was up to (that was 2 months ago.) I can't help but want to check on her. In your most honest opinion please, should I check up on her? I am over her for the most part, but I can't help but feel like me looking at her IG and FB isn't about me being nosey, but more as a test for myself to see whether or not I am really fine. If what I see bothers me I will have to vow to never look again, but if it doesn't bother me should I take that as a good sign?
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Just the fact that you want to check is a bad sign. Do not look or you will be in for a world of pain you never dreamt in your worst nightmare. I take a page from cav. Assume the worst. She is with someone else. She is doing/saying the same things she did or said to/with you. She loves the new guy more than you. What she has now is even more special than what you had. She likes having sex with him more than she did you. Am I harsh? Too bad. You got to be tougher because life is even harsher than I am. Now grow a pair. Move on. She did. She's happy. She's not thinking of you at all. She already gave up on the relationship now it's time you give up on her. Time to let go and not look back. 1
Author DannyCA Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Just the fact that you want to check is a bad sign. Do not look or you will be in for a world of pain you never dreamt in your worst nightmare. I take a page from cav. Assume the worst. She is with someone else. She is doing/saying the same things she did or said to/with you. She loves the new guy more than you. What she has now is even more special than what you had. She likes having sex with him more than she did you. Am I harsh? Too bad. You got to be tougher because life is even harsher than I am. Now grow a pair. Move on. She did. She's happy. She's not thinking of you at all. She already gave up on the relationship now it's time you give up on her. Time to let go and not look back. Thanks. That is some strange way made me feel just a little bit better.
Recommended Posts