Roflsaurus Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 After having numerous failed relationships by the early age of 23 (days <-> years), I have quite literally funneled down the idea that being single trumps that crappy Hasbro like game; I like to term "Relationsh@#s!" I took a hiatus from the dating world for just a measly 4 years, what I returned to was worse than I ever imagined. When I hit on a girl at the bar and she says yes within an hour of meeting her, hook up with me then splits to the next guy... sometimes that very night.. well then. I thought I was winning some kind of prize or was the star of some serial dater reality special. A few weeks past and I witnessed the same behavior with my friends and strangers around me. I have tried dating online~ I find most girls these days seem entitled, they don't really have anything to say and expect sex if the date goes well. :S love is more like fast food now, it was nuked so bad that it almost resembles the setting from "The Road"..... People don't seem interested in labels anymore, should I adjust to this new dating scene, and go roman?
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 You have to realize that the dating game changes with age, women are much more transparent and confident in themselves then they may have been in their early 20's and less naive as well, they move on quicker and easier than they used to without trying to stick it out being all sucked up into one guy like you as they may have in the past. Also at this point people have settled into a pattern of who they are, if they're used to going out to bars and hooking up, they do that with ease now...they've done it before in the past and they do it again now without batting an eye-lash, there's no shame in it...a lot of women need that validation and attention from men in general...and they might be a lot less inhibited. In spite of the above, yes most women will be entitled. If they sleep with 3 different guys last weekend but meet a guy they want a relationship with on Tuesday then she in her mind is still entitled to that from a quality guy who takes her out, treats her well and the whole nine, regardless of her own personal behavior...there is no mirror, just a desire for what they want and a perspective of how they view themselves, not how they look from the outside in and what their actions indicate. So if she's looking for a hook-up she might sleep with you in the first 5 minutes...if she is looking for a relationship then she might put you off for a week or two, it just depends...she'll try to appear more conservative than she really is...many women wear different hats depending on the guy. There is no real value or substance to anything any more...it's just a cycle of rinse and repeat, if you want something of substance you have to simply be a man of substance...and then choose the kind of girl that you feel is worthwhile investing in, which might not be easy. However with that being said, being out of the dating game for 4 years is generally not going to put you at the top of the totem poll in term of desirability to women as a whole, many women you might desire might just overlook you for not knowing what you're doing...as these women have been with men who have been playing the field for years....year after year, and will compare/size you up to your competition...the good news is most men are fools in the dating world however and don't really know much of what they're doing anyway (just a simple process gets them laid/women, nothing extraordinary) the bad news is unfortunately, you're probably apart of the most men category. If you want a nice old-fashioned girl or whatever, that's all simple and straight-forward then meet someone off the beaten path out of the general dating scene. 3
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