Relationship Anxiety

[lee84]

I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half, and for the past four month I have been having extreme anxiety. I know all the anxiety doesn't come from my relationship, but it still affects it.

 

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I would appreciate any advice.

 

Thanks

[Blastoplast]

What's bringing on your anxiety? Work stress, home stress, relationship stress? These kind of things matter -- all I know is that at the end of my first real long relationship I had anxiety through the roof because I felt like my life was collapsing around me. Irregular heartbeats, abdominal pains, my one eye would constantly twitch. It was awful...

[lee84]

The relationship anxiety come from the fact I over think a lot, and lately I haven't been able to relax. In the really bad moments I worry that I am not good enough, and he will leave me.

 

I know my family situation is part of the problem as well....My parents are getting divorced. I try my best to stay out of it, but its difficult because they are my parents, plus I have a younger brother I try to look out for in the situation...

 

Thanks

Edited October 18, 2013 by lee84

[SoonMyFriend]

Fellow anxiety sufferer here... what are you doing to help your anxiety?

 

Have you tried any of the following:

 

-Deep breathing exercises?

-Yoga?

-Keeping an anxiety journal?

-Therapy?

-Exercise?

-Getting a lot of sleep? (And restful sleep)

 

There's also a book I highly recommend - "The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You" by Leahy. I'm working my way through it and it has a lot of tips to help you deal with anxiety.

 

I just find you have to start working on it. You have to figure out WHAT is causing it and how you can deal with it. A therapist can help you with this.

 

Anxiety is a hard road but you can help improve yourself if you work at it.

[Phantom888]

Yes anxiety is natural in a good relationship. Life situations add to it.

Therapy and medication are very common solutions. Also, as mentioned, yoga and exercise. Do whatever necessary to calm yourself. Anxiety can be destructive if not treated.

[crederer]

My ex had the same thing. I think it was a big part of why we broke up. She would have these crazy anxiety attacks to the point where she'd almost pass out. Anything she was doing while having an anxiety attack she automatically removed from her life. For example, she was pursuing her PHD, was a semester away from getting it and had an anxiety attack at school and immediately dropped out.

 

She had a panic attack while her roommate and her boyfriend had a blow out fight, and could no longer hang out with the two of them while they were together.

 

She had a panic attack DURING sex with me and broke up with me 2 days later.

 

I think it was just her way of trying to avoid attacks in the future by elminiating what she determined to be "triggers" but in all reality the choices she makes as a result of these attacks has greatly negatively impacted her life.

 

Just make sure any choices you make are made from a logical stand point and not an emotional reaction to these attacks. That's really all I can offer, and I know that a lot of people dismiss these attacks thinking it's no big deal but having witnessed it up close, I know how difficult things can be.

[lee84]

Thanks everyone for all your suggestions and advice....it is very much appreciated