rockerton Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) what are the best ways to get through time when the person you used to love (your ex) ignores/doesnt acknowledge you anymore? Edited October 18, 2013 by rockerton deletion of post :p
Philosoraptor Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Realize that you deserve better, cut the person out of your life completely, and move on to bigger and better things. 7
Author rockerton Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Realize that you deserve better, cut the person out of your life completely, and move on to bigger and better things. should i ignore her if she ever tries to contact me again?
Philosoraptor Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Yes, don't be a backup option when you deserve to be a priority. 1
Author rockerton Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Yes, don't be a backup option when you deserve to be a priority. thanks dude
aybc123 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 what are the best ways to get through time when the person you used to love (your ex) ignores/doesnt acknowledge you anymore? Find someone else who is interested in you. A lot of the reason you're hurting is because you think that your ex ignoring you means that they never cared, or think you're worthless/ an idiot/ whatever it is you dread most (chances are they don't, they probably just cant be bothered to deal with the hassle of rehashing things they've already moved on from, people are kind of fickle). Anyway all of this **** is bound to damage anyones ego, you loved a person and they've rejected you not only interms of being in a relationship with you but they don't even want to speak to you again, it would hurt anyone and the only way to fix that is to take positive action. - Improve yourself - Surround yourself with people who value you This could be going to the gym regularly, starting to play the piano again, or just vowing to cook more often instead of eating ready meals. It could mean hanging out with your drinking buddies more, joining a new club or dating girls. The hurt of losing someone you love can take a long time to fade but the damage done to your self-esteem by being ignored is fairly rapidly fixed by an attractive girl trying to eat your face. 2
Author rockerton Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Find someone else who is interested in you. A lot of the reason you're hurting is because you think that your ex ignoring you means that they never cared, or think you're worthless/ an idiot/ whatever it is you dread most (chances are they don't, they probably just cant be bothered to deal with the hassle of rehashing things they've already moved on from, people are kind of fickle). Anyway all of this **** is bound to damage anyones ego, you loved a person and they've rejected you not only interms of being in a relationship with you but they don't even want to speak to you again, it would hurt anyone and the only way to fix that is to take positive action. - Improve yourself - Surround yourself with people who value you This could be going to the gym regularly, starting to play the piano again, or just vowing to cook more often instead of eating ready meals. It could mean hanging out with your drinking buddies more, joining a new club or dating girls. The hurt of losing someone you love can take a long time to fade but the damage done to your self-esteem by being ignored is fairly rapidly fixed by an attractive girl trying to eat your face. i know :/ its just weird though because this girl wanted to stay friends with me so badly after the breakup and when i said we should go our seperate ways, she would get all emotional and try and stop me then like 3 days after she just dissapears for a month and still not a peep from her. its really weird. But since then ive learned to play the guitar and worked on talking to more people. i just dont understand how someone can change so quickly.
aybc123 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 (edited) I had the same thing bro, after we broke up I suggested it might be easier not staying friends and she said something like 'dont you dare I dont want to lose you'. Fast forward 6 weeks when shes been dating someone new she likes for a couple of weeks and I actually do tell her I need space for a couple of months to move on because I still love her. I regretted my choice after a week or so and tried to fix things but she pretty much blanked me and has refused to talk to me since. Where people are emotionally can change pretty rapidly, her actions towards you would suggest to me that she is very interested in a new guy and is emotionally/mentally whatever invested in him. There is no room for you or I to figure. We cant go back to being regular friends and we cant still fill the space of a boyfriend/postbreak up bestfriend-emotional blanket because that space is now occupied so we essentially fall through the cracks. In some ways its good, she probably feels its unfair on the new guy to be rehashing things with an ex and that's at least a loyal way to act even if it sucks for us because we're closer to them/have known them longer etc. She may come to regret treating you like crap in time and get back in contact when enough has passed, or she may just forget and feel it's not worth it. She may also breakup with the new guy and want to reconnect then, or she may breakup and feel too ashamed to try to reconnect. You just dont know. The most important thing though is to recognise that the relationship is over and whatever reasons she has for ignoring you or whether or not she will talk to you again are irrelevant in terms of your romantic future. I know it's really difficult to let go of trying to figure out why, hell after 6 weeks since i started getting ignored im still going over it in my head, but coming to terms with the fact that you may never understand and that that's ok should be top on your list of things to work on. Edited October 20, 2013 by aybc123
todreaminblue Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 (edited) date someone who truly cares about you, grow feelings in the right spot....for someone who wants to have you around, not who rejects you ....go no contact or limit it ..... surround yourself with all your favourite things....look for little things that can mean so much if you look hard enough..i find seeing someone who has rejected you and devalued your feelings to be extremely hard....its better to not think of them at all....and that would mean not seeing them and getting that heart hit everytime you do see them.......i have decided to do exactly this.no cotnact no sighting him........i am tired of wondering why i am not good enough to speak too ...and it doesnt matter anymore...deb Edited October 20, 2013 by todreaminblue
Author rockerton Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 I had the same thing bro, after we broke up I suggested it might be easier not staying friends and she said something like 'dont you dare I dont want to lose you'. Fast forward 6 weeks when shes been dating someone new she likes for a couple of weeks and I actually do tell her I need space for a couple of months to move on because I still love her. I regretted my choice after a week or so and tried to fix things but she pretty much blanked me and has refused to talk to me since. Where people are emotionally can change pretty rapidly, her actions towards you would suggest to me that she is very interested in a new guy and is emotionally/mentally whatever invested in him. There is no room for you or I to figure. We cant go back to being regular friends and we cant still fill the space of a boyfriend/postbreak up bestfriend-emotional blanket because that space is now occupied so we essentially fall through the cracks. In some ways its good, she probably feels its unfair on the new guy to be rehashing things with an ex and that's at least a loyal way to act even if it sucks for us because we're closer to them/have known them longer etc. She may come to regret treating you like crap in time and get back in contact when enough has passed, or she may just forget and feel it's not worth it. She may also breakup with the new guy and want to reconnect then, or she may breakup and feel too ashamed to try to reconnect. You just dont know. The most important thing though is to recognise that the relationship is over and whatever reasons she has for ignoring you or whether or not she will talk to you again are irrelevant in terms of your romantic future. I know it's really difficult to let go of trying to figure out why, hell after 6 weeks since i started getting ignored im still going over it in my head, but coming to terms with the fact that you may never understand and that that's ok should be top on your list of things to work on. how did you know she was dating someone new though? my ex said she broke up with me because she didnt want to deal with the relationship anymore, i dont think she would jump back into one that fast. i wish i could just delete her from my mind with a switch of a button :/ its like theres no way to stop thinking about this crap. but your right, these girls have nothing to do with our futures anymore :/
Author rockerton Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 date someone who truly cares about you, grow feelings in the right spot....for someone who wants to have you around, not who rejects you ....go no contact or limit it ..... surround yourself with all your favourite things....look for little things that can mean so much if you look hard enough..i find seeing someone who has rejected you and devalued your feelings to be extremely hard....its better to not think of them at all....and that would mean not seeing them and getting that heart hit everytime you do see them.......i have decided to do exactly this.no cotnact no sighting him........i am tired of wondering why i am not good enough to speak too ...and it doesnt matter anymore...deb nah dude, hes not good enough to speak to you, we need to stop placing the people that reject us in higher positions than us.
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