AnyaNova Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Who has replied to one of my "doing really badly, help" threads. I don't always have the strength or the ability to reply in the moment, but please don't think that I didn't read, notice or care. I did. Greatly. Rice, Joel, Mr. Scorpio, ToDream, Annaoftheredundancy:-p, and everyone who I shod be thanking but am forgetting, Thank you. I am getting there, and I know I wouldn't be without you. My ex pulled one heck of a Jedi mind copulation, and my brains are nearly unscrambled thanks to you! :-) 2
Mr Scorpio Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I'm happy to help. I remember the state I was in when I first came here, and when I came back, and when I came back the second time. It feels like you're throwing out a life-line with every post. You hope that someone will tug on the other end, even if it just to say that they understand. While it is unfortunate that so many people's main source of solace is "strangers" on the internet, I know I'm very grateful for the ability to do so. Just remember when you are all saned-up and ready to go that there will be plenty of people taking your place. There is always someone experiencing their first heartbreak, their first divorce, etc, etc. Pay it forward. 2
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) You're not saying goodbye are you? I don't think I can take another loss Edited October 18, 2013 by JoelBarish
Author AnyaNova Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 I'm happy to help. I remember the state I was in when I first came here, and when I came back, and when I came back the second time. It feels like you're throwing out a life-line with every post. You hope that someone will tug on the other end, even if it just to say that they understand. While it is unfortunate that so many people's main source of solace is "strangers" on the internet, I know I'm very grateful for the ability to do so. Just remember when you are all saned-up and ready to go that there will be plenty of people taking your place. There is always someone experiencing their first heartbreak, their first divorce, etc, etc. Pay it forward. Exactly!!! That is exactly the experience. Hoping that someone will acknowledge you, who might understand what you are going through. You guys were that lifeline for me. And that is why I keep coming back as much as I can. I want to be that lifeline for somone else. I wonder how many people you have helped by your calm, steady, and solid replies. Probably many more hundreds than you know!
Author AnyaNova Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 You're not saying goodbye are you? I don't think I can take another loss Of course not! If I were saying goodbye, that is what I would say! What I am saying here is thank you! Your replies too are alwys helpful, thoughtful, and steady. Even if they said very true things that I didn't want to hear, but needed to! :-)
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I never meant to say anything harsh. I just don't want you to get hurt.
Author AnyaNova Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Saying what someone needs to hear, (like no matter what your ex displayed on your last meeting, he may not be sitting around languishing for you, and maybe living his life quite happily) is not being harsh. It is speaking the necessary truth that they need to hear, that I needed to hear, to truly begin to heal!
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Well you've been very helpful too. Both you and Rice kept me going when I was in great pain. I wish I could have done more for you then type a few words. 1
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Isn't it neat how folks whom have never met are able to help one another with a kind word or two, honest insight, and friendliness? It's almost as if even here, paths are meant to cross. This whole thread warms my heart. <3 Blessings <3 2
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Yes....but then they get over their break ups and leave....and I'll be here forever, still not over my ex
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Awww, now, Joel. That's not true, it just feels true. You're going to heal and be whole and think "who was she again?" You're going to make it through this! And as much help as some have given me, I doubt I'll be going anywhere. One of those "pay it forward" things. I imagine that's true for alot of us. Don't get me wrong, I'm still struggling but it's getting better every day. Today was the first day I woke up to the alarm on my phone and went to pick it up to look at the time, and did not have that anxious feeling to see if I had a text from him or not. About 30 minutes later, I realized, he..I didn't even think of him first thing today! Of course, then I thought about him the most of the flipping day hahaha 1
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Awww, now, Joel. That's not true, it just feels true. You're going to heal and be whole and think "who was she again?" You're going to make it through this! And as much help as some have given me, I doubt I'll be going anywhere. One of those "pay it forward" things. I imagine that's true for alot of us. Don't get me wrong, I'm still struggling but it's getting better every day. Today was the first day I woke up to the alarm on my phone and went to pick it up to look at the time, and did not have that anxious feeling to see if I had a text from him or not. About 30 minutes later, I realized, he..I didn't even think of him first thing today! Of course, then I thought about him the most of the flipping day hahaha They say to get over someone it takes half of the time you were together. So I guess I have another 7 months
Author AnyaNova Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Yes....but then they get over their break ups and leave....and I'll be here forever, still not over my ex I'm just guessing here, but I would bet you anything that there are at least three or four of us here, who if you were in the right age range and location, would be quite happy to have a shot at helping you get over your ex! Furthermore, don't you dare say such ridiculous nonsense. You'll be over your ex soon, but you'll come back and post to pay it forward, like Mr. Scorpio does. 2
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Yes I will stay here to help. And yes I am in the right age range
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 That explains why I'm getting better so soon. All my damage was inflicted in less than 3 months. So, another 2-3 weeks and I should be my normal self. Another 7 months...it'll feel like a lifetime while you are going through it. When it's over, you'll look at it and see what you've learned, how you've grown, and hopefully it'll seems like it flew by. I was watching a preacher on tv last night talking about trials in life. He mentioned if a trial took 15 years, you still had that 15 years to live anyway..so live it to the best you can. My point is...we have to go through it to get "there" or "whole"...so we'll all live it together and help each other through...and be the better for it. <3 2
Author AnyaNova Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 Awww, now, Joel. That's not true, it just feels true. You're going to heal and be whole and think "who was she again?" You're going to make it through this! And as much help as some have given me, I doubt I'll be going anywhere. One of those "pay it forward" things. I imagine that's true for alot of us. Don't get me wrong, I'm still struggling but it's getting better every day. Today was the first day I woke up to the alarm on my phone and went to pick it up to look at the time, and did not have that anxious feeling to see if I had a text from him or not. About 30 minutes later, I realized, he..I didn't even think of him first thing today! Of course, then I thought about him the most of the flipping day hahaha That is a huge step. My first day of that I had the same thing, couldn't stop thinking about him the rest of the day, but I think it's the brain's way of compensating. Large step forward several back, and then forward. Congrats on your first ex free morning! 3
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Thank you, AnyaNova! I'm looking forward to many more..for all of us! 2
JoelBarish Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I don't want to lose any of you, ever! I want you all to sign my year book 2
loveofhorses1970 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 lol, that made me laugh! You all are so funny, very nice people. I've gotta hit the hay, up early tomorrow for a long day at work. Y'all enjoy your night, sweet dreams, and enjoy the full moon tomorrow night with partial eclipse! 1
RiceaRoni Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Anya!!! I'm so happy to have been able to help you And I'm grateful you have helped me as well. It's nice to be able to meet people online which can help each other and work together to get to the same goal, to heal and to help one another move on from what we've been through. It's amazing because we have never once met in person, but yet we are all connected. It's because of the goals we share and the destination we all hope to achieve and get to. Again, I'm very happy I have been able to help you Anya (: I would do so anytime. 2
RiceaRoni Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Better yet, you know I would help any of you LOL 2
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