WhiteButton Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Sup guys, I have been dating this girl and things have been great. I contacted her on Sunday to set up another date and she said she was up for it and she said we can figure a day this week. I told to let me know what day works for her and she said she will. I texted her on Tuesday to say hi we exchange few texts and call it a night. I did not wanted to bring the topic on when we should meet as I feel that I have already asked her on Sunday. And the ball is on her court to give me a day as she said she would. I have not texted her since and I am not sure where to go from here?
todreaminblue Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Sup guys, I have been dating this girl and things have been great. I contacted her on Sunday to set up another date and she said she was up for it and she said we can figure a day this week. I told to let me know what day works for her and she said she will. I texted her on Tuesday to say hi we exchange few texts and call it a night. I did not wanted to bring the topic on when we should meet as I feel that I have already asked her on Sunday. And the ball is on her court to give me a day as she said she would. I have not texted her since and I am not sure where to go from here? just ask her have you figured on a day yet we can go out......a casual text......if she is interested in dating you she wont mind you wanting to know the day...also shows that you are keen on the idea she might think you arent because you didnt set the date up on the spot........good luck...deb
Author WhiteButton Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) just ask her have you figured on a day yet we can go out......a casual text......if she is interested in dating you she wont mind you wanting to know the day...also shows that you are keen on the idea she might think you arent because you didnt set the date up on the spot........good luck...deb Thanks deb, Here is another reason why i am hesitant to ask if she has figured out a day. We were suppose to go out last week, and i asked her if she wanted go for a dinner - she said she was busy last week and i then said we can try it this week if that works better for her, and she said sounds good. So i asked here on Sunday again(that would have been my 2nd) time and now its hard for me to ask again. She knows that i want to see her again. My thought is that she should work with me a little bit here. The thing is, she has told me she has had great time hanging out with me and thanked me. When i text her, i get a text back within an hour from her. While i have been initiating the texts, i went no contact with her for 3 days and she reached out to me. Which i thought there might be a sign that she is interested. At this point i plan on not texting, i am thinking she will reach out to me and will go from there. Edited October 18, 2013 by WhiteButton 1
todreaminblue Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Thanks deb, Here is another reason why i am hesitant to ask if she has figured out a day. We were suppose to go out last week, and i asked her if she wanted go for a dinner - she said she was busy last week and i then said we can try it this week if that works better for her, and she said sounds good. So i asked here on Sunday again(that would have been my 2nd) time and now its hard for me to ask again. She knows that i want to see her again. My thought is that she should work with me a little bit here. The thing is, she has told me she has had great time hanging out with me and thanked me. When i text her, i get a text back within an hour from her. While i have been initiating the texts, i went no contact with her for 3 days and she reached out to me. Which i thought there might be a sign that she is interested. At this point i plan on not texting, i am thinking she will reach out to me and will go from there. good luck white button i hope it turns out well for you.....best wishes...deb 1
Author WhiteButton Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 good luck white button i hope it turns out well for you.....best wishes...deb Hi Deb, So here is an update. I went with your advice and reached out to her on Friday and asked her again to go out, she agreed and we went out last night. I took her out for dinner and we had an awesome time as we always do. However i walked away from the date more confused about this girl. So we spend four hours talking everything went great, i was getting all the signs, i would flirt make her laugh and she would respond with a tap on my arm, play with her hair etc. Genuraly good times. I pull in front of her house to drop her off, we do the small talk and knowing how well the night went, i say to her we should hang out next week. And she responds she has things lined up, weeding ( she gives me the name of the person) so i think wedding is legit and then a concert there is a band and she is planing on going there. This kind of turn me off after a good night. To close the whole night i went in for the kiss and i get the cheek. I played it off like it was nothing we say our good byes and i drive home. I felt like **** driving back home last night. This was our 3rd date and i was not able to kiss her to establish some connection with her. I am losing my patience, and starting to think that this girl does not like me, but why would she go on 3rd date with me if that is the case? She does not have a full time job, i brought the question up to her last night to get a sense what she is doing through the week, as every time i had asked her out she would decline to meet me fallowing week saying she was busy, but then we would meet fallowing week. Basically it comes down to her siblings she has 3 and she spends most of her time with them through out the week. This is what i then started having my doubts even more, because i feel that she can put one evening aside with her schedule. Confused guy that doesn't know if he should leave or stay???
StanMusial Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Honestly, based on your posts, I get the impression she is not into it so much. If she doesn't even work, she must have a really busy social life to be so unavailable. It seems that is her priority, not dating. To be fair, when I met my gf I had some of the same doubts... but she runs her on salon and is legitimately very busy schedule-wise. If I met someone who seemed really "busy" but didn't even hold a full time job I would definitely wonder if she really wanted to hang out with me. My advice would be to carry on with life, maybe invite her along with you if you're going out or something but don't continue trying to plan around her schedule.
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