Tamin Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 So, I've been getting reacquainted with a childhood friend for the past 4 months and things have gotten a little heated within the past 6 weeks. He had been reluctant on a romantic relationship because he stated that respected me (he's been enjoying his single ways). We ended up kissing a couple of times and he stated that he didn't want to mess up what we had. He shares his secrets with me and is able to open up and talk to me like no other. He was upset about the kissing and felt that I kinda took advantage because he had been under the influence and stated that we wouldn't be doing that again. Well.... 2 weeks later we were both under the influence and ended up having sex but he didn't cum (hopefully that was because of the liquor). We decided to stop after 2hours, lol but he didn't want to kiss afterwards and pulled away. He asked me to stay (has often stated how much he enjoys cuddling) and I did but I ended up leaving before he woke. I've been calling for 3 days now and he won't answer his phone. He did like one of my pics on IG (something he rarely does because he's too cool to let people know he likes their pic) but that was the day after our encounter. Guys, does he need time to process what happened? You think he's afraid of a relationship? What do you think his reason is for not responding to my calls for the past few days? I'm going nuts over here!!!! Thanks in advance.
Grumpybutfun Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Hi Tamin: He stated he wanted to be friends, and you disregarded his feelings and pushed past his boundaries. I would feel very disrespected and like you are trying to trap me into a relationship with sex. Under the influence, his inhibitions were down and he allowed himself to be pulled by you into a direction he did not want. You are obviously very intent on having more than just a friendship with him. You have overstepped boundaries he placed with his discomfort at having kissed/sex with you. Be careful that you don't lose his friendship. He isn't afraid of a relationship, he just doesn't want to have one with you. He wants to be your friend. Men process things fairly quickly and we usually do not mean the opposite of what we say. He is enjoying being single. Best of Luck, Grumps 2
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