prime81782 Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 Well here is my story...I have been dating a girl with 2 kids for a little under a year and we have just moved in together and it is great. But her family has started coming around and well they are bums there are 3 of them living out of a hotel room..her mom her boyfriend and her sister. They have already borrowed money from her till she was broke and they are usen her car so i have to ride her around to school and to work on the opposite side of town, not to mention i work cross town from where she works. Now her sister has come up pregnant (doesn't know who the father is) and wants her (my g\f) to adopt it cause she can't raise it her self. But she wants to come by and visit and have the child call her momma and maybe take it back in a couple of years. I have several issues with this one she needs to takes responsibility two i feel like my g\f is bien used and three i know there are plenty of good parents out there that want kids but cant have them. but when i voiced this i got treated like i was inconsiderate. Now my g\f just thought this was a good idea even though we are flat broke cause of them and can barely feed every one on what we have now. But she thinks we can do it. I wish i could talk to her about it. She brought it up to me to discuss but when she saw i was hesitant (i did not say yes or no i just voiced my concerns) she started harpen on me with stuff like "what if it was ours". And when i mentioned if it was ours she snapped at me cause i haven't asked her to marry me.. which on down the line i did. i had even considered getting her the on Christmas but i don't have the funds so ya can guess how bad that hurt. but i have no idea how to handle this any help would be appreciated.
Moose Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 So,...... what drugs or alcohol are these people using?
Author prime81782 Posted December 10, 2004 Author Posted December 10, 2004 Well her sister is a pot head and her moms boyfriend enjoys drinking a lil to much.
Moose Posted December 10, 2004 Posted December 10, 2004 Well, if it were me, I'd tell your girlfriend she needs to make a decsion. It's either you two, or her and her family because you're not going to spend your life dedicated to satisfying anyone else but her. Either she realizes she's with you to have a relationship with just you, or she can work to feed her side of the family. You're with her for her, not to take care of her relatives. Mine was a little different. I could afford to raise my Sister's two girls, so we did. It made our budget tight, but we managed. Their Daddy finally gained full custody and they are now with him, and I knew it was a temporary situation. I didn't harbor my drunken sister and buy her liqour and dope though. It was my decision to care for the girls because she simply wasn't capable. If you are concerned with the child, make a deal with your girlfriend that you two can care for him/her, but NOONE else.....the rest are capable to fend for themselves, they're just not willing. And as long as they know you and your girlfriend will help them out......they'll hang around forever....like feeding a stray.
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