PreacherJoe Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 Hello all, I'm new to this forum. I have been reading posts on here for awhile and decided to make a post myself. Heres a little background history first. I'm 48 years old and yes I'm a preacher. My wife of 23 years past away 2 years ago in May. I have 2 daughters ages 20 and 17 years old. My daughters are all into the forums on advice and suggested one to me. Normally I wouldn't bother but wanted others advice. Heres my situation. Theres a lady that recently joined my church. Shes been there now about 4 or 5 months. I really like her. The thing is, not only does this woman sound like my late wife when she speaks, but she dresses alot like her and looks alot like her as well. Yes its only been 2 years since her passing and I'm not quite over it, nor do I think I ever will be. We spent many wonderful years together and she was a wonderful, loving and caring person. I would like to maybe start to date again. I don't want anything to serious though. I asked my daughters what they thought about the lady at church. My oldest daughter told me she thought maybe I should ask her out. My other daughter doesn't think its a great idea, for she feels that just because her mother has passed, that I'm forever tied to her in marriage of the heart and mind no matter what. I understand her point, and I will always be "married" in my heart and mind to her, but she is no longer physically here on this earth. When I asked my daughters what they thought of this lady looking, dressing and sounding like their mother, they both told me, and I quote, "dad you are trippin." Maybe I am "trippin", but I know what I see and hear. My thing is, I want to ask this lady out, but not sure if its because I truly like her as a person, or if its more on the fact she resembles my wife. Don't get me wrong, shes a lovely person but maybe I'm just drawn to her because of her looking, etc. so much like my late wife. Do any others have any advice on wheather or not I should ask her out. I don't want to do it for the wrong reasons. Thanks so much in advance.
alphamale Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 ask her out after you go on a few dates with her you may lose your attraction for her, OR.... your attraction may grow. this is how it works, baby steps. Don't put the cart before the horse. After all, if you do ask her out her answer may be NO. everything will work itself out OVER TIME....
JadeStar Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 You should ask her out. I mean what could it hurt? Even if you don't want anything serious right now, you could still have a great friendship with this lady. Has she given you any indication that she likes you too?
PreacherJoe Posted December 10, 2004 Posted December 10, 2004 Hi, thanks for your replys. JadeStar, yes she has shown some interest in me. She makes it a point to come sit beside me at church events etc. Maybe after the service this Sunday I will ask her out. Thanks again.
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