napy666 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 My friend 24 years old is dating a 36 year old and this guy lives at home/apartment with his mom and his sister and her daughter who's 7 years old. This sister is 42 works making 1,000 or so a month and can easily pay 1,275 a month for rent . But she chooses not to pay the full rent just part of it, because the brother is paying 500, the mom 200 due to welfare/retirement and then the sister pays the remains. She has the money to easily pay it in full but uses it towards going out to eat at fancy places, or buys expensive 30 to 200 in clothing, toys, etc. For her daughter while the husband only see's the daughter once a week buying the kid whatever she wants. The daughter herself is spoiled rotten having tons of toys spread around the apartment. The husband having 2 other kids of his own and a wife but is seeing this lady and her kid. She can buy her own house if she makes 1,000 or even 3,000 a month. The guy my friend is seeing doesn't like school so he chooses not to go to college. He does have a job it just doesn't pay as much as his sister job which is a dental person. Plus this guy does not speak English at all So him finding another type of work is tough because everyone is expected to talk English in the U.S. So one day my friend and him go to a theme park my friend paying for the tickets, he paid for the parking, they went out to eat. BUT when it came to buying a gift my friend got mad at the fact that her boyfriend bought his niece a $20 toy and she just got a lollipop, she as expecting a nice gift for taking him to this theme park. She dislikes how he puts his family before her. She is always having to pay for them to go out, or offers to pay for his credit card debts etc. My friend dislikes how this sister is spending money on expensive crap but she can't afford to move out of the family's apartment and get her own place, even though the amount of money she makes from work can pay for her own house and utilities easily. My friend has told her boyfriend to move in with her but he says he can't he has to help his sister pay for rent and the family and his niece. So my friend does not know what to do about this situation. She wants him to get some balls and move out and move in with her but he can't seem to do it because of the sister. What should she do?
snowflakes88 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 How in the world could someone pay $1,275 per month in rent if they only earn $1,000 per month total? Also, $1,000 per month = $12,000 per year. That is nowhere near enough to purchase a house. 1
pyramid Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 It has nothing to do with the sister. The guy likes living with his family, cheap rent, and probably having 0 household responsibilities. There's nothing your friend can do but cut bait if she doesn't like it.
Stellar Wench Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 What should she do? Never date a man who still lives with his mum.
GoreSP Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Never date a man who still lives with his mum. As much as I agree with this, I get the feeling the mum loves with them... That being said : Your friend sounds like she wants her boyfriend to spend his money on her and her alone. I mean - who on earth complains about having a less fancy gift than a 7 year-old kid? really? 1
LovesickAlberta Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Never date a man who still lives with his mum. Can you elaborate on your position? How about a man who is helping his mom get by, due to some kind of disability or personal issue.
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