365daysgone Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I find myself sifting through profiles on this POF dating site and not thinking I would be a match for anyone. I mean, I really don't see anything unique in any of these girls profile either so maybe that's the problem. I know it's hard to get your personality across in an about me section but they are seem exactly the same. But here is what I look for/don't want to see: -Does not do drugs. -Minimal drinking. (This one is very hard to find. I am 24 and can't seem to find anyone that doesn't drink or very rarely. If there are any pictures of them drinking, I don't message. If there are any references to drinking in the about me section, I tend not to message.) -if the girl has pictures of them wearing a ton of make-up, or shots in the mirror in certain poses, I tend to ignore. It just shows that they are likely in partying or not very mature. (Don't question me on this, it's hard to explain what I mean.) -I am just looking for someone who enjoys simple and peaceful things. Movies, mini-golf...these types of activities. I admit, I also get intimidated when the girl seems really outgoing and does lots of traveling or crazy adventurous activities. ATVing seems to be big around my area with girls and that really intimidates me cause I'm more laid back. So am I really being to picky or is it that girls around my age really are as uniform as they seem?
kendallk Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Hey! I dont think thats a bad list. I dont do drugs or like to drink beyond socially. In todays world where hedonism is everywhere with young people its hard to find people who dont do drugs/drink alot and sleep around. Nothing wrong with that. Only thing I thought was weird was the "crazy activities" criteria. If you want someone more introverted like yourself go to a place where girls are more introverted. You can find some online (alot of people online dont like the bar scene or are shy), churches, through friends...if you meet a girl at a bar/club she is likely to not have this type of personality.
Copelandsanity Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 If you want someone who enjoys simple and peaceful things, you have to place yourself in an environment where there are girls that are doing them. For instance, a yoga class, a book club, a meditation group. I would also say that - especially at your age - you should also be open and flexible to new experiences. That's not a suggestion to get wasted, but if you haven't ever tried ATV-ing before, why not give it a shot? You might actually enjoy it. Why not go do some traveling yourself? Or try something more adventurous?
jlola Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I like your list too. I tend to be a bit of a square. I think if you want a relationship, looking for someone not driven to excitement,or following the crowd or having bad habits or addictions is fine. Smart . You will find your match.
Babolat Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Man here, your list is fine, you should be selective. My problem with OLD is I have ruled out 95%+ of the women I am matched to in my area! I agree with what Copelandsanity says too.
Mascara Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I don't think you're too picky at all. Don't think you're necessarily going to find it on POF though.
Author 365daysgone Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 If you want someone who enjoys simple and peaceful things, you have to place yourself in an environment where there are girls that are doing them. For instance, a yoga class, a book club, a meditation group. I would also say that - especially at your age - you should also be open and flexible to new experiences. That's not a suggestion to get wasted, but if you haven't ever tried ATV-ing before, why not give it a shot? You might actually enjoy it. Why not go do some traveling yourself? Or try something more adventurous? I don't mean I'm no open to new activities and stuff. I just mean that when I see a girl is into that, it intimidates me because they likely have a really really outgoing personality. (And I don't).
Copelandsanity Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I don't mean I'm no open to new activities and stuff. I just mean that when I see a girl is into that, it intimidates me because they likely have a really really outgoing personality. (And I don't). My suggestion to be more adventurous also extends to dating. I recommend dating different types of people, and also learning to be confident and comfortable even around more outgoing personalities, whether they be women or men. You would also be surprised how well a more extroverted person will complement a more introverted one. Opposites attract!
Author 365daysgone Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 My suggestion to be more adventurous also extends to dating. I recommend dating different types of people, and also learning to be confident and comfortable even around more outgoing personalities, whether they be women or men. You would also be surprised how well a more extroverted person will complement a more introverted one. Opposites attract! I haven't been able to get anyone to meet me off these dating sites except for one nut. My picture must not be good because I think I am a decent looking guy.
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