babyfacexox Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 (edited) Hey im 20 and my friends with benefits is 26, We are very attracted to each other physically maybe has something to do with the fact that we are total opposites (im a libra and he is an aries) anyways that is not the issue. The issue that i am most concerned about is the fact that i have a feeling he maybe getting attatched to me. He has spoken to his best friend whom i speak with oftern (the guy that introduced us to each other) about me saying he missed my embrace and that i made him feel relaxed, he has also told me that nobody has made him wait as long as i have and that im special.. he oftern kisses my head and kisses me infront of his close friends, we do cuddle after sex and he tells me alot about himself and his childhood and his ex (whom he had been with for 5 years) i have met his father (informal meeting) and he seems to get a kick out of teasing me about a friend of his who claims that i dated (i never did) and also about a friend of his who i dispise very much. He texts, facebook messages, calls and snapchats me even when he does not want to have sex. He has dreams about me (i know this because he told me) and he also gets jealous of me speaking about other guys i know this because he becomes very quiet, asks about me constantly when my bestfriend speaks to him, he seems to tell his best friend that i am clingy (not the case at all because i ignore him alot unless i want sex or an ego stroke) ... i dont know weather he is attached, likes me or is trying to play games with me? please help. (btw we haven't laid down any rules he also said when i asked that i was sort of like a friends with benefits so i assumed we are friends with benefits im also going on dates with other guys) Edited October 17, 2013 by babyfacexox
That Guy In Vegas Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I would say he likes you, however i can not say how much he likes you. From what you described I'm sure it's a lot & he's probably caught feelings along the line. If he has caught feelings then what? Will it be a deal breaker or turn off with you or will it make you want a relationship with him? Either way you're just sex buddies for now, just ask him & see what he says... He might think it's all you want & afraid of pushing the issue any further. And what if he only wants sex & nothing else from you? then what..
MrCastle Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Hey im 20 and my friends with benefits is 26, We are very attracted to each other physically maybe has something to do with the fact that we are total opposites (im a libra and he is an aries) anyways that is not the issue. The issue that i am most concerned about is the fact that i have a feeling he maybe getting attatched to me. He has spoken to his best friend whom i speak with oftern (the guy that introduced us to each other) about me saying he missed my embrace and that i made him feel relaxed, he has also told me that nobody has made him wait as long as i have and that im special.. he oftern kisses my head and kisses me infront of his close friends, we do cuddle after sex and he tells me alot about himself and his childhood and his ex (whom he had been with for 5 years) i have met his father (informal meeting) and he seems to get a kick out of teasing me about a friend of his who claims that i dated (i never did) and also about a friend of his who i dispise very much. He texts, facebook messages, calls and snapchats me even when he does not want to have sex. He has dreams about me (i know this because he told me) and he also gets jealous of me speaking about other guys i know this because he becomes very quiet, asks about me constantly when my bestfriend speaks to him, he seems to tell his best friend that i am clingy (not the case at all because i ignore him alot unless i want sex or an ego stroke) ... i dont know weather he is attached, likes me or is trying to play games with me? please help. (btw we haven't laid down any rules he also said when i asked that i was sort of like a friends with benefits so i assumed we are friends with benefits im also going on dates with other guys) Nice. 4
Phantom888 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 be careful. FWB never works in the long run, and someone will get hurt. this is a fact. this whole casual sex friendship is very, destructive and often warps your perspectives about love. its a bad idea. been there. 2
Leigh 87 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 be careful. FWB never works in the long run, and someone will get hurt. this is a fact. this whole casual sex friendship is very, destructive and often warps your perspectives about love. its a bad idea. been there. I've never been hurt by a fwb. I don't have a warped perception of love. I reallllllly reallllllllllly liked my ex fwb. I had a very soft spot for him. I could have developed feelings if I let myself. I just didn't. There was absolutely no harm done when I got a bf. Though he did feel a bit upset. Nothing major though. I REALLY like that ex fwb as a person and as a friend. I was there to support him when his best friend died. We both met over seas. We are true friends and are also highly attracted to each other. We still hang out sans sex. .....I liked my fwb as much as u can like a fwb, we didn't get too attached and there was light disappointment but no real pain when we ended the sexuak element of our friendship. ...I also know what true love feels like and plan to embrace it again one day. Some people are just cut out for fwb. Personally, I think I manage fwb extremely well. The op can manage too. 1
Leigh 87 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 babyface - just because he texts and favebook messages you every day, cuddles you and really seems to quiet like spending time with you, it does not necessarily mean it is the making of a loving relationship. I had a FWB who would message me every day, think very fondly of me, thought I was different from other girls and he said there was just something about me that stood out for him. Great friends. Daily messages from him. We liked each other enough to date. Guess what? Him, nor I, fell hard enough to undeniably have to "have" a relationship more than FWB. We probably could have fallen harder romantically speaking had we allowed ourselves. Who knows. I have a hunch. ......He may well like you that way, but simply have the ability to switch it off due to him not wanting a relationship? Or he could be a mess right now, being crazy into you yet not knowing how to tell you. The key issue here is: COMMUNICATION. lol! Just ask him how he feels. In a light way, nothing too intense: " hey, so, this FWB thing is awesome. Is everything going okay for you? Please remember to tell me if you ever catch feelings, I am not judgmental and I wouldn't make you feel bad for it okay:) cool" Just make it clear that you wouldn't make him feel bad if he did catch feelings. Seem open, honest and receptive to any confessions he could potentially make. Do not mention it again, and say it in an upbeat tone.
Author babyfacexox Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) lol don't judge me guys do the same thing too .. ive already nearly been married yes at my age im fijian indian, i thank god everyday for my freedom. Edited October 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author babyfacexox Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 babyface - just because he texts and favebook messages you every day, cuddles you and really seems to quiet like spending time with you, it does not necessarily mean it is the making of a loving relationship. I had a FWB who would message me every day, think very fondly of me, thought I was different from other girls and he said there was just something about me that stood out for him. Great friends. Daily messages from him. We liked each other enough to date. Guess what? Him, nor I, fell hard enough to undeniably have to "have" a relationship more than FWB. We probably could have fallen harder romantically speaking had we allowed ourselves. Who knows. I have a hunch. ......He may well like you that way, but simply have the ability to switch it off due to him not wanting a relationship? Or he could be a mess right now, being crazy into you yet not knowing how to tell you. The key issue here is: COMMUNICATION. lol! Just ask him how he feels. In a light way, nothing too intense: " hey, so, this FWB thing is awesome. Is everything going okay for you? Please remember to tell me if you ever catch feelings, I am not judgmental and I wouldn't make you feel bad for it okay:) cool" Just make it clear that you wouldn't make him feel bad if he did catch feelings. Seem open, honest and receptive to any confessions he could potentially make. Do not mention it again, and say it in an upbeat tone. to be completely honest im not ready to hear anything from him really i think its an infactuation and he will get over it with time if not i will address the issue like you have suggested thank you for your input
Author babyfacexox Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 I would say he likes you, however i can not say how much he likes you. From what you described I'm sure it's a lot & he's probably caught feelings along the line. If he has caught feelings then what? Will it be a deal breaker or turn off with you or will it make you want a relationship with him? Either way you're just sex buddies for now, just ask him & see what he says... He might think it's all you want & afraid of pushing the issue any further. And what if he only wants sex & nothing else from you? then what.. im leaving no room for disappointment if he wants a relationship then ill date him to see weather it could work and if it can i will step into a relationship with him.. but if he were to just want sex i would be happy with that arrangement too. i feel as though he may have caught feelings but ive been avoiding anything physical for about a week just to cool down and get my head together.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 lol don't judge me guys do the same thing too .. ive already nearly been married yes at my age im fijian indian, i thank god everyday for my freedom. I love indian chicks. If you like hot 26 year old white guys and live in the Southern California area, send me a PM.
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