sambo77 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 WTF is wrong with me?! I thought I was doing OK but I really miss her today and I just got dragged into looking at her FB. There wasn't anything AWFUL to look at, just evidence she's been out a bit. I haven't been looking at it at all until today. It just made me flip out big time. I kinda panicked. It was like watching her drift away from me. I just lost it. Suddenly everything I thought I was leaving behind came out at once, anger, rage, tears, a desperation to call her. Grrrrrrrrrr....I just feel so f&ckin powerless...nothing I can do will take this away. I'm just sitting here at a complete loss. How long do I have to feel like this? I'm tired of feeling like every day is a freakin battle. Just want this all to stop :-( 1
forgetmenot75 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Nothing is wrong with you, but next time you have the urge to sneak into her Facebook, go for a walk, far away from your computer. Block her. Delete her. Nothing to look that will make you feel better, all of the contrary, looking at what she's doing will make you feel miserable. Don't do that to yourself.
Stealth3 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Yeah, block her from fb, that way she won't show up anymore. That's what I did.
KatZee Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 If you sincerely want to stop feeling like this, then you need to take the steps to begin your path to healing. Step 1: BLOCK AND DELETE. It's over. Stop torturing yourself. Delete old messages, emails, delete pictures, and turn off any notifications for mutual friends you may have. You don't want ANY reminders of her on your social media. Step 2: Force yourself to reconnect with friends you haven't seen and force yourself to go out. You may not want to go out, you may want to just stay in and feel sorry for yourself, DON'T. The more you force yourself to go out, the more you will be cultivating your own life and making new memories, WITHOUT HER. Step 3: Take up new hobbies. Discover new passions. Join social meetup sport groups. Go to get together's in your area and meet all new people. Step 4: Take the time to now better yourself. Work out. Get new clothes. Cut your hair. Change it up. If you're not doing any of these things, you will NEVER move on. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I just feel so f&ckin powerless...nothing I can do will take this away.( Wrong! You did this to yourself. Plain and simple. Solution: Don't do that again!
Chi townD Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 How did you get "dragged" into looking at her Facebook page?
livdee Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Sambo, I know exactly how you feel. I was doing so much better, but then I saw him in town. Simple right? No. All of those feelings came back. Then I saw him texting in his garage, he's right up the road from me, and I got it into my head that he as replaced me. I have no way of knowing this, but he used to go to the garage to text me...so of course I think that I wasn't good enough, he had to find someone else...totally irrational, but still. our minds are very powerful. I don't know why I care. I don't know why I can't just move on. Some days are great and those days are winning out over my desperate days, but on those desperate days, I really want to reach out to him, just to try to get back that feeling..... hang in there. One day at a time. we are all in this together :-)
JDPT Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 It takes a lot of work to get over a loss. We work towards disenzitising from someone who meant it all to us. It's no perfect, nothing is, specially this process. I've realized that we will have so many ups and downs and we simply need to hang on tight and indulge in our ups and learn from our downs. Don't be so hard on yourself, dust yourself off and get back on it. 3
BC1980 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I was doing great for a month, but I have felt pretty terrible since Saturday. I feel sick to my stomach and anxious with nostalgia. It's awful really. People have told me it comes in waves, and it's not linear.
geegee81 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I'm sorry that you are having a bad day. Please spare yourself from the pain. Delete and block her on facebook. Delete her phone number as well. You wont be able to move on if you keep seeing her. 1
Ansem Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 I understand what you're going through. I thought everything was going fine for me too until this past week. I wasn't able to sleep and ended up missing an entire day of class for it (literally could not sleep until 7am); what worked for me was to let all those emotions out and not bottle them up inside. The next night I couldn't sleep again so I let it all out and cried for probably a good 10-15 minutes; slept like a baby. 3
Beautiful diamond Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 My friend please take it as a blessing you have not seen the worst yet. One day she will be posting about a new guy, trust me, no pain will hurt worse than that. It's not an if but when. Save yourself from that heartache and simply stop. I have been through the above pain and it's what you are feeling x1000000. You won't have to guess if she is over you, moved on, and happy, the FB will make that pretty evident. PLEASE, stop looking for trouble. As the bible says "Seek and you shall find......" 1
StyleOnEm Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 What did you think was going to happen by going to her facebook page? Her to post up a picture of tears in her eyes because of how miserable she is? Your curiosity will definitely set you back from moving on.
HeartBroken1988 Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 But I did blocked her. I'm still friend with her sister and I checked her facebook and obviously saw a picture of her. bursted in tears. great way to start a morning /:
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