4 Months Post BU. 2 and a half NC and since she moved on. Just need to rant!

[bcm235]

Its been 4 months since we split and 2 and a half nc. One minute you were on my kitchen floor crying telling me you couldnt bear the thought of me not being in your life and that youve not felt this in love since your first love to a week later telling me you need to work on your mental health issues and you need to be on your own.

 

6 weeks later you are with someone new! I am so confused and so angry.

 

The longer I go without hearing from you the more i die inside! How can you just move on. 2 and a half years wasted! You told me at the end that the relationship was becoming too much. That making plans and making the 15 mile trip to see me was tiring. Yet you must be making plans with the new guy and he lives further than I do!

 

Youd get jealous of girls I work and give me grief for just socialising with them yet he is a personal trainer who looks at nice girls bottoms all day. I work in an office. Do you have a go at him for his innocent female interactions?

 

You said if I got a girlfriend within 6 months of you dumping me it would mean I never loved you yet you got someone new after 6 weeks!

 

You said you dont understand people who are obsessed with one person one minute then someone else the next. Look what youve done!

 

When we last met you told me about your first date with this guy you told me you liked that you could be with someone new and not let your past littered with violent boyfriends(not me an ex before me!) and daddy issues interfere with your life now.

 

So who do you turn to when you wake up in the night crying and shaking because of your past? Him?

Does he hold you all not to reassure you or build a den under the duvet because its safe under there like i did?

 

When are you going to wake up and realise you made a huge mistake! I dont want you back i just want proof that i meant something to you or that from time to time you think of me.

 

But no. You deleted me from your life. Like i never existed. I want to move on. I want to forget you. But unlike you im human…

[conf]

I am in a similar situation. I was with her for 6 years and till the day of the break up she kept telling how mush she loved me. Because of that I feel that these six years are fake...

 

I was there total commited for her. I trusted her more than anyone. I was trying to help her overcome her insecurities (e.g when she felt jealous i was trying with actions to show her that there is no reason to feel like that). She knew all of that and it seems that meant nothing to her. 6 years meant nothing... In the end, I feel that she did not appreciated me...

 

It was all about the spark & excitement of the new. When she found someone who showed interest in her she broke up with me, waited for one month (in order to not feel guilty of being cheater and not kill her image to her social network) and now she is with him.

 

Sorry dude... Unfortunately, like me, you cant do anything but try to move on. You are not alone.

 

PS I really cant understand Where the cliche "Women are more aware of their emotions" came from. When a guy do something like that, he is accused of being guided by his sexual arouse and attraction for the new chick. But for women the same situation is called an emotional void that only them can understand and this justify every action they take. So there is no guilt for them. It seems pretty fair...

[Chi townD]

It's good that you can come here and vent. But, when you've calmed down, I want you to re-read what you just wrote. The way that you've described her makes her extremely bat sh*t crazy and you're better off without her.

 

Take solace that maybe one day, she'll get it. But, when that happens, it's going to be too late because you'll be long gone.

[bcm235]

She was completely bs crazy! I recently met a blood relative cousin for the first time and she was worried that because she was pretty that i would get with her! I think she left truly because of my bad habits.

 

I snored at night. I wasnt a clean freak ( i tidy but not ocd like her!) I didnt go to the gym enough. But I would cook and wash up 7 nights a week and if i did go to the gym she would get upset that i wouldnt be able to text her and she wouldve moved on to there being other women there and not being ok with it.

 

And she said i didnt make her feel like a woman. But how can i treat her like a woman when she acts like a little girl all the time!

 

Her friend died about a month before we split. I think all of this maybe made her think lifes too short.

 

I just dont get it... i think the new dude is a rebound but its been nearly 3 months now. Id just be annoyed if she is giving him an easy time and not complaining and being clingy and insecure like she was with me :/