blues_around_me Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 Ok first off, let it be known, i've never been a relationship at 20 years old. Heres my situation. There's this girl I have gotten to be very good friends with for more than 2 months, she asked if i liked her within the first month, I said yes, and she gave me the signs she liked me. Just recelty i told her again i really liked her (my first time ever telling someone this) and she said she knows and she really likes me also. After that we got closer (she would call me first, rather than her calling me back, been closer in personal space) and then all of a sudden it changed. She all of sudden asked me if we didnt become more than friends, would i still be her friend, and she then told me she, i the past 24 hrs at the time, has been dating someone. She told him that she liked me as well. Since then (its been under a week) we have hardly talked and not seen each other at all. I am, most of all, just very confused and wondered what happened and also very upset by the whole situation. Here was a girl who i really liked and who liked me back, and all of a sudden it's like we dont know each other. If ANYONE can help me it would be greatly appreciated. I am planning on asking her a certain question next time i do see her: why are you going out with him and not me. Also she has always complained about things this kid would do before, they've been friends for a few months also. PLEASE give me some advice and words of wisdom. Thank you.
Merin Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 Sorry you're feeling so down... Honestly.. it seems that while she likes you and you so obviously like her as well.. the 2 of you never actually began dating? Could be that she started dating the other guy because.. well he asked. I understand that you seem to be a little shy and uncertain of what to say or do when you have an interest in someone.. the best advice I can give you is when you do have an interest in dating a girl.. ask her out. Rejection does suck yes.. but you never know if you don't ask right? It still beats the heck out of kicking yourself later for not asking out a girl you like.. Hang in there;)
spiceman Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 I agree with Merin, however you still have hope. Try this....Next time you talk to her ask her out, if she says she has a boyfriend tell her that your not interested in him, you interested in her. You will probable get a date and if you dont you will know where you stand.
aFighter Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 Originally posted by spiceman Try this....Next time you talk to her ask her out, if she says she has a boyfriend tell her that your not interested in him, you interested in her. You will probable get a date and if you dont you will know where you stand. That's terrible advice! People who cheat should be de-boned and deep fried! People who promote it are worse blues_around_me, look, you had your shot. Likes and whatnot aside did you ever actually utter the words "Do you want to go out on a date?" or some such line. You didn't and she took this as a sign that you're just good friends. You missed the boat. He who hesitates and all that.
theedge Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 I read your board and thought I would respond. Your not the only one thats been in that situation. I was single and lonely from the time I was born to now. I didn't even get my 1st date till I was 27. The dates I got between 27 and 30 weren't worth the bother as they were all bad and like poison to my self esteem. I met a lot of them online and sometimes never met them in person. Things would be going so well with some of them and then sudden feeling of it going cold with less contact and when there was contact they were distant. All I can say is keep plugging away at it. Maybe when you meet someone your interested in be more agressive.
alphamale Posted December 8, 2004 Posted December 8, 2004 you just got played by your so-called "friend" her behavior is totally normal so you better get used to it, there is much more to come my advice to you is to make yourself #1 and reverse the tables and start playing the girls, the earlier you start learning this the better. oh, and also remember, girls can be hazardous to your health
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