ashishelan Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 (edited) I was in a relationship with a girl for the past 4 years. It was important for her to get married and she always pushed me to get married to her asap. I gave her my commitment that i will marry only her. But i needed sometime to sort my life, goals, ambitions only so that together we lead to a better life. In the process I involved my parents. They didn't like this girl. Indeed they despised the idea of my getting married to her. I tried finding out the reason and they had plenty of reasons. Cultural, Social, psychological, astrological etc. Some astrologer saw the planetary position of the time of my birth and of her's and concluded that if i marry her my life will be in danger. I didn't believe a word of it, but, for my parents it was an ultimatum. They denied and said it will be futile if i try to persuade them. I love my parents and didn't want to go against them but i wanted to convince them that such predictions are no good. I tried and failed miserable. They were just not ready to listen. I moved to another city and took a new job, to start afresh, to get away from them and to make a life where I can make the love of my life comfortable. w/o the prejudiced eyes of my parents. I knew that someday when they will see us living happily they will understand. In the process my GF wanted to sort things at her end. She was hurt by my parents rejection and she would push me to immediately take a stand, though, i kept telling her that things will be ok...and i need time. I was sure that i will make a great living with her. Though there were occasional fights, misunderstandings, arguments. She left her job and remained at her parents house for about 2 months where she kept pushing me to get married. She thn took a new job and shifted to a city near my city. Two months back i met her and told her that my sisters wedding is planned in the month of December and we can plan for getting married after her wedding. She didn't respond very well. I told her how much i love her and that though she is legally my wife i have always thought of her as my wife. But she kept pushing me to get married and out of some fight we had an argument and decided not to talk. We didn't talk for a month. After a month when i just couldn't resist it i went to meet her. When i called her, she explained to me, that she is out with her parents and that she can't meet me that very day. I called her the next day and she said that she is getting married and that she doesn't want the slightest hint of her past to spoil her relationship and that she doesn't want to meet me. I got the biggest shock of my life. I insisted upon meeting. She came. She said that as i was not responding to her insistence on marriage she had to take a stand. She said that she has moved on and this guy loves him a lot. With tears in my eyes i asked her - Do you love him? She said - If one loves you, you do respond. I asked how is he as a person? She said- He is a gem of a person. I was in the biggest shock of my life. I didn't know what to do! I told her that you the one only one for me in this world. And that i can't live w/o you. She said - Don't dare say a word! you didn't stand for me when your parents denied. She started pouring in all the bad that's happened and forgot all the good. She blamed me for everything and left in a rush. I tried to meet her after a couple of days. She didn't come alone. She came with a friend and said that - I am pestering her. She has made her mind. She called me bad names and fled the scene. She also mentioned that i am trying to ruin her life. I wrote several mails to her apologizing to her that whatever wrong i have done i will make up to her for the rest of my life. I tried reminding her the good times she had with me...there are so many memories. She replied with a single reply- Go to hell and that i am such a loser that she would marry a goose but not me. We have had fights where we have said bad things to each other. Worse than these. I am guilty as charged and i feel like life is slipping away from my hands. I tried talking to her parents and they agreed to talk to her as my only fault is that i am late and i acted inconsiderate. And that's not a small fault. Her parents favored me. But what i got to hear from her is that i was only trying to tell them a false version of the story and She specially told me these words - " Go and try talking to my parents now and you will know what they have to say. I have told them such a story that they will literally scare the **** outta you" I feel lost. I didn't make a single thing ugly for her. Except for trying to talk to her. To tell her how i feel...how i still feel for her. But she said - 'Keep your dick to yourself' I don't how to get over this agitation. This guilt that i am living with. Edited October 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Criticality Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Well shiver me timbers! Looks like the astrologist was right all along!
Criticality Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 She was a crazy broad who wanted to get married no matter with who. Move on and get over it. Buy a couple of bottles of him, put on some sad music, and indulge in both for a week. Then get out of the house and start dating some other people. Look this chick up again in 5-6 years. and if you play your cards right she'll engage in a little extramarital action with you. But for the love of god, don't get in a relationship with her!
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 She was a crazy broad who wanted to get married no matter with who. Move on and get over it. Buy a couple of bottles of him, put on some sad music, and indulge in both for a week. Then get out of the house and start dating some other people. Look this chick up again in 5-6 years. and if you play your cards right she'll engage in a little extramarital action with you. But for the love of god, don't get in a relationship with her! Are you kidding me????
Author ashishelan Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 Are you kidding me???? I don't know what to think. My mind goes back to her over and over again. Its very difficult for me. I have quit my job too. I am just not able to concentrate on anything. My life has just stopped. I go back to thinking - What i did wrong? What mistake i shouldn't have done? I am just so lost. Can someone please help?
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