Jc12345 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Just looking for everyone's thoughts on this. I bought my girlfriend a tablet for Christmas and she used it to send naked pictures to some weird guy who buys her gifts in exchange. I saw them in her sent email folder and she said they never actually sent. She justified my visit to the strip club years earlier as a reason for doing that. We were getting along great so I don't understand. Also caught her talking to another guy that she pretty much broke up with me for. I don't get why girls go from a good hard working guy to a unemployed loser in a crappy band.
90s kid Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Just looking for everyone's thoughts on this. I bought my girlfriend a tablet for Christmas and she used it to send naked pictures to some weird guy who buys her gifts in exchange. I saw them in her sent email folder and she said they never actually sent. She justified my visit to the strip club years earlier as a reason for doing that. We were getting along great so I don't understand. Also caught her talking to another guy that she pretty much broke up with me for. I don't get why girls go from a good hard working guy to a unemployed loser in a crappy band. I'm not really sure what your question is but I'll give you my thoughts. - She sent naked pictures to some guy in exchange for gifts. That says A LOT about her character. - She lied to you about sending the emails, even though they were clearly in the sent email folder. Therefore, she's untrustworthy. - She blamed you for her inappropriate behavior (as if you going to the strip club justifies what she did). - She's talking to her ex while she's with you. This girl sounds like bad news. Instead of wondering why this girl would "go from a hard working guy to an unemployed loser....," you should be asking yourself why you're wasting your time with someone who treats you so disrespectfully. 7
ascendotum Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Talking to her ex. People here have different views on this, depending if they have been burnt before on this or how secure they are in their relationship & how much trust they have of their partner or if they maintain friendships with exes. I still have contact with exes, so I can't complain if a gf does. I'd be wary if my gf maintained contact with an ex who was the love of her life and he broke up or cheated on her, though. If you are uncomfortable with this you need to let her know, and get her views on the subject (obvious now by her actions) and let her know if its a deal-breaker. Does it make any difference if the ex was unemployed or get up and go entrepreneur? Sending nude pics to another guy. This would be a huge deal for me. Sending them for $ or gifts does change the circumstance a little in that it does not appear to be as part of a sexual affair. (assuming this is true and not a bunch of bs) Its going to be inappropriate for most in a relationship. While some guys might have gfs who are cam whores or who do stripping on the side, they know about it and its not a 1 on 1 monetary relationship. The you went to strip club years ago so I can send out nudies justification. Total crap. Such a piss weak justification. 1
kendallk Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I don't think men who visit strip clubs are good quality men that make good boyfriends. But men find any reason to justify their disrespectful behaviors. What she did was petty but I can see why she did it. Me, I would have prob just dumped you then instead of being passive aggressive. 1
ascendotum Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 (edited) I don't think men who visit strip clubs are good quality men that make good boyfriends. ... Me, I would have prob just dumped you then instead of being passive aggressive. So tell me what the difference between the BFs + husbands who have never been to a strip club (or viewed porn) and the BFs + husbands who have visited a strip club at some time? I want to know what you have observed or experienced in men not what you think they might be like. Like the OP Ive been to a strip club before and I want to know how you think I treat my GFs. Edited October 17, 2013 by ascendotum
Radu Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I don't think men who visit strip clubs are good quality men that make good boyfriends. But men find any reason to justify their disrespectful behaviors. What she did was petty but I can see why she did it. Me, I would have prob just dumped you then instead of being passive aggressive. First, i think the OP implied one visit, or something that happens very irregularly. He did not even give info on weather or not they were together at the time ... since they are bf/gf and the visit happened 'yrs earlier'. Second, she sent naked pics of herself as thanks for a gift. What kind of a person in a comitted relationship sends naked pics to others first of all, and as thanks for gifts ??? It wasn't petty, the OP is being out-sourced while being kept around just in case it does not work out. The girl is already checked out of the relationship, one foot out the door, and she did not inform him of it.
thefooloftheyear Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I don't think men who visit strip clubs are good quality men that make good boyfriends. But men find any reason to justify their disrespectful behaviors. What she did was petty but I can see why she did it. Me, I would have prob just dumped you then instead of being passive aggressive. :laugh: She wasnt being passive aggressive..She got busted and came up with a lame ass excuse for being a tramp..God knows what else he doesnt know about her.. Drop her on her head... TFY 1
Outsider77 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Wow that's really stupid of her. Aside from the fact that it's a ****ty thing to do to you, sending naked pics to other people is incredibly idiotic. Who knows where those pictures will end up? I would break up with her.
MalachiX Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I don't think men who visit strip clubs are good quality men that make good boyfriends. But men find any reason to justify their disrespectful behaviors. What she did was petty but I can see why she did it. Me, I would have prob just dumped you then instead of being passive aggressive. I'm not a big fan of strip clubs but your post is pretty passive aggressive it'self. 1
Criticality Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Whoopsies Kendall... Spellcheck must have done a number on you, cause that came out all wrong, but don't worry, I fixed it for ya! men who visit strip clubs are good quality men that make good boyfriends. But men find any reason to justify their disrespectful behaviors.
Trimmer Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 What she did was petty but I can see why she did it. But you think that while in a relationship, sending naked pics to another guy - under any circumstances, but especially in exchange for gifts - is what you would characterize as "petty but understandable"? Me, I would have prob just dumped you then instead of being passive aggressive. Dumped him for what, giving you a tablet as a Christmas gift?
Criticality Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 K, so basically you found out that your girlfriend is a cam girl of sorts. (Guys follow or watch them online. Sometimes they sell nude pics or are nude on a live stream) Hey, it's an honest living along the lines of stripping. (Except its less personal I guess). Some guys would be fine with that. Others wouldn't. Now you gotta figure out which one you are. The biggest problem IMHO isn't the pictures, but that she tried to lie about it. So OP... Figure out with yourself whether you can handle having a girlfriend that uses this as a little side income. IF you are, sit her down, tell her you wouldn't mind if she was selling pics/getting something in return for a pic, and ask her if that's what she was doing. If she doesn't come clean, or tries to lie about it again, dump her. You gotta have honesty in a relationship, no matter if your girlfriend is Amish, a stripper or occasionally models online.
Author Jc12345 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 It just bothers me because of her never admitting to it. She dumped me because of the strip club. It was the only mistake I made in the relationship and didnt even get a lap dance. She always used that against me. Even gave me a black eye for it. Now she's dating the guy she would secretly talk to while we dated. But she wouldn't even allow me to have a Facebook but she always was allowed to have one.
Criticality Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Well thank god she's in the rear view mirror then! She sounds like a vindictive, controlling, jealousy prone biatch, who's untrustworthy on top of that. Not so much because of the pics, but for lying about it. And as for why a girl would leave a "nice guy" with good job, for an unemployed dude who may or may not be in a band, you see guys doing the same thing all the time. That's attraction, feelings and love for ya. There doesn't have to be logic involved...
man_in_the_box Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 It just bothers me because of her never admitting to it. She dumped me because of the strip club. It was the only mistake I made in the relationship and didnt even get a lap dance. She always used that against me. Even gave me a black eye for it. Now she's dating the guy she would secretly talk to while we dated. But she wouldn't even allow me to have a Facebook but she always was allowed to have one. Dump her like garbage - or has she already done you the favor of removing herself from your life? Good riddance.
Author Jc12345 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 Now she's spreading rumors that I beat her all the time. I swear on my life I never did. I would just grab her arms when she would punch me while driving. Thank god it's over.
man_in_the_box Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 That's about the same level of disturbingness of spreading naked pics of your ex-gf on the internet. Bummer... You should never take justice in your own hands but I seriously hope karma takes care of her. Would laugh my ass of if that new 'date' would do the honor for you.
veggirl Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 She's trash and tbh it's shocking you dated her for so long considering she was physical with you during arguments. Thank your lucky stars you are out of this drama fest and in the future try to keep the drama to a minimum in your relationships. Much healthier and much more rewarding. 1
ascendotum Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 It just bothers me because of her never admitting to it. She dumped me because of the strip club. It was the only mistake I made in the relationship and didn't even get a lap dance. She always used that against me. Even gave me a black eye for it. Now she's dating the guy she would secretly talk to while we dated. But she wouldn't even allow me to have a Facebook but she always was allowed to have one. Huh. the strip club incident was a ages ago yet she sat on it while continuing to be your gf, but only pulls it as her trump card now...when you busted her for sending out nude pics of her self to some guy. lol she can FO......which it seems she has now done. Yep dating a guy she was setting up to monkey branch to. You busting her on the nude pics just expedited the arrangement. As for her bad mouthing you now, I would let everyone know she was posting nude pics of her self to guys behind your back...in fact I'd extrapolate it that the witch was screwing another guy behind your back, and its good riddance.
Author Jc12345 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 To set a timeframe here. I went to the strip club in the early stages of our relationship. Just wasn't in the mindstate of love and comittment. Many fights later she forgave me. We dated for two years. Way later on she sent the pictures. Lied about them and blamed the strip club. We celebrate out two years in September and she broke up with me a week later, blaming me lying about the strip club.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 She hit you. She gave you a black eye instead of discussing what happened like an adult and either resolving it within the relationship or breaking up. This tells you all you need to know, irregardless of the nude pics. Honestly, why are you even with someone that would do that? 1
Keenly Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I laughed at the strip club boyfriend material poster. So right now I'm boyfriend material, but as soon as I cross that threshold, I'm not ? Also, she used a be incident she supposedly forgave you for two years ago. Woman logic.
Author Jc12345 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 I even spent hours at this girls side in the hospital and she later blamed me for making her sick all over Facebook.
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