Do girls really like a bad boy? - Consolidated discussion

[hasaquestion]

For every "nice guy" who is single, you have a guy who is both a jerk and single.

 

For every jerk who has a girlfriend, you have a nice guy who has a girlfriend.

 

50% of the girls you know are dating a guy who's a jerk. But that doesn't mean girls like jerks, because 50% of the population at large are jerks. They're just not notable jerks.

 

Men just focus on the jerks who have beautiful girlfriends and ignore all the data they don't want to see.

[hotpotato]

I think there is confusion as to what is a bad boy.

 

A bad boy can be edgy and still reliable.

 

That being said, a lot of nice guys are not nearly as nice as they claim to be...

[stillafool]

Here we go again about the Bad Boys. It's not that they get so much attention from women but men can't stop talking about them either.

[stillafool]

females are attraced to them like magnets

 

Yes and some men are obsessed with them.

[FrostBlaze]

I just hate it when i see girls go crazy about guys because they seem "mysterious" and more "bad". When they use them words i go nuts for some reason xD and wanna hit myself at the stupidity.

"They are so mysterios i wanna find out more by shagging them."

 

It's been used on me also, it's so god damn annoying.

EX contacted me 2 years after BU, fell in love all over again with me, because i am so mysterious and acting all bad and different now...i'm exactly the same, i had not changed in 2 years, just more reserved toward her.

 

W/e i'm a never understand how this works.

 

But yes young girls love bad boys, and by that i mean, over-confident fellaz that don't show much emotion and are vague about themselves in general....etc, more.

If i learned one thing in this dating world, it's that giving out to much info about oneself is bad, or actually showing your emotions.

Never worked for me ^^.

 

I have to shag girls early before they lose interest.

[hotpotato]

females are attraced to them like magnets

 

I could say something similar about men...

 

Why do men like drama queens?

 

Why do men like women who probably can't hold a conversation?

 

Why do men like women with that vacant stare?

 

Honestly, I think men who complain about women liking bad boys need to go do something exciting, like ride motorcycles or whatever. Women like exciting...

[regine_phalange]

Bad boys bore me. I prefer sweet, awkward, geeky guys, who look like incognito super heroes.

[regine_phalange]

a lot of nice guys are not nearly as nice as they claim to be...

 

I avoid "nice" guys like the plague too, they have a tendency to victimize theirselves, not very sexy.

[William]

I'd like to note that our hydra stopped by to inject their unique brand of baiting into the thread but it would be a pity to unwind it so I left the responses. If I can find a good 'bad boy' thread, I'll merge this into it and get a consolidated thread going. This subject seems to surface at least once a week. ...... OK, found one and got this set up.. Please continue!

Edited February 24, 2014 by William
Consolidated thread

[hasaquestion]

I think there is confusion as to what is a bad boy.

 

A bad boy can be edgy and still reliable.

 

That being said, a lot of nice guys are not nearly as nice as they claim to be...

 

Bingo. When was the last time you devoted your day to charity, performed random acts of kindness, helped a kid with his homework, stopped to help a guy whose car broke down, etc.? What have you done for the world recently? Maybe you actually are a nice guy, and if you are that's great. But it seems like most people who are self-styled "nice" are just like the rest of the population and looking for validation in something that can't be proven or disproven (the internally reached conclusion that I'm a "nice guy").

[Tayken]

I could say something similar about men...

 

Why do men like drama queens?

 

Why do men like women who probably can't hold a conversation?

 

Why do men like women with that vacant stare?

 

Honestly, I think men who complain about women liking bad boys need to go do something exciting, like ride motorcycles or whatever. Women like exciting...

 

 

Can I suggest you follow some of the other threads created for your fellows on men?

"men linking drama queens"....yes, the same way I like a colonic irrigation

[topaMAXX]

I'm a nice guy and I get laid whenever I want to.

 

Though, most girls tell me that I come off as a bad boy. So maybe thats why.

[hotpotato]

Can I suggest you follow some of the other threads created for your fellows on men?

"men linking drama queens"....yes, the same way I like a colonic irrigation

 

I know that men say they don't like drama, yet many still gravitate towards it.

[Revolver]

The age makes a difference, I think that's the biggest factor in the disagreements in this debate

[Tayken]

I know that men say they don't like drama, yet many still gravitate towards it.

 

 

You know this because you've dated me, my friends and acquaintances?

 

Blanket statement ...gotta luv it

[hotpotato]

You know this because you've dated me, my friends and acquaintances?

 

Blanket statement ...gotta luv it

 

Maybe I have.

 

I think older guys appreciate the calmness more, though.

[Tayken]

Maybe I have.

 

I think older guys appreciate the calmness more, though.

 

Yes.....daddy issues will give you that notion.

 

I also know for a fact that there is less drama with women of my age group (40s) ....That I prefer to date

 

A drama queen is not HOT POTATO to me...personally. Just saying

[NYWoman]

Fun was his game in life. Life with him was exciting.

He taught me the beginnings of rock climbing.

He took me for a ride in his Barracuda at speeds exceeding 150 plus

He took me for a ride on a twisty up hill down hill road along a river at speeds up to 80. Then let me take the wheel while he coached me, with commands like brake, third gear, now, meaning floor it, I got the car up to 60 and was never close to being out of control.

Then when it came time to cool off he suggested we go skinny dipping.

We once had sex in a row boat in the middle of the lake at noon.

He took me to the state fair one time. And there was not a single ride he was a afraid of. The most daring I had ever been was a tall ferris wheel. I went home loving them just as much as he did.

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I could go on.

Edited March 1, 2014 by NYWoman

[hotpotato]

Yes.....daddy issues will give you that notion.

 

I also know for a fact that there is less drama with women of my age group (40s) ....That I prefer to date

 

A drama queen is not HOT POTATO to me...personally. Just saying

 

And who's a drama queen?

[William]

As a reminder, this is a consolidated discussion thread regarding 'do girls really like bad boys?'

 

Threads are available, for free, to discuss other topics. This one is about girls who like bad boys. Thanks!

[samsungxoxo]

Wowwwwwwwww....some issues right there.

 

I think what most girls want is basically, a man that looks sexy and bad as hell, but is a puppy inside.

 

That's always been what I'm looking for.

 

Probs the opposite of what a man wants i.e. looks like an angel but inside is a w****.

Wouldn't that be good?

 

Finding a man that has all these 4 traits:

1) Great in looks

2) Sweet personality

3) Sense of humor

4) Low-count man out of choice, but not because he desperate wants sex but has other serious issues

 

Seems like that is sooooo rare. I believe if given the chance, most men wouldn't be low-counts nor nice because he's his natural self (I guess no one is nice for nothing). Results: there are very few serious, sexual reseverd men who are also decent but by choice.

 

Seems that the ones fitting those 4 categories are (out of choice that is) usually very religious men or they got married to their HS sweetheart early on. If they happen to have 1-3, they don't have 4 what I want too. If not by religious, I heard on another site that those rares ones can also be overly picky and have even higher requirements for women on their list.

Edited March 1, 2014 by samsungxoxo

[topaMAXX]

Wouldn't that be good?

 

Finding a man that has all these 4 traits:

1) Great in looks

2) Sweet personality

3) Sense of humor

4) Low-count man out of choice, but not because he desperate wants sex but has other serious issues

 

Seems like that is sooooo rare. I believe if given the chance, most men wouldn't be low-counts nor nice because he's his natural self (I guess no one is nice for nothing). Results: there are very few serious, sexual reseverd men who are also decent but by choice.

 

Seems that the ones fitting those 4 categories are (out of choice that is) usually very religious men or they got married to their HS sweetheart early on. If they happen to have 1-3, they don't have 4 what I want too. If not by religious, I heard on another site that those rares ones can also be overly picky and have even higher requirements for women on their list.

 

I believe I have the first 3 qualities. What do you define as "low count"? My count is 22 (most from ages 19-24) and I'm currently voluntarily celibate.

 

Just curious.

[samsungxoxo]

I believe I have the first 3 qualities. What do you define as "low count"? My count is 22 (most from ages 19-24) and I'm currently voluntarily celibate.

 

Just curious.

That's exactly what I mean; if he happens to be all those 3 then he always tends to have a high number of past partners or had a wild phase in his younger years (esp in college). I would turn you down for your 20+ count. Not really want I'm looking for.

 

I'm a low-count woman in her mid-late 20's that's only been with 1 man sexually and never had a ONS nor casual sex. I'm looking for that in a man too. Yes, I'm being very selective and this is what is making it harder to find him. I'm going to end up erasing 1 in the list, then take away 3 too.

 

I guess what I'm looking for is after all a needle in a haystack. I'm ok if I end up with at least 2,3 and 4 but he's not attractive at all or 1,2,4 but he's too serious and has no sense or humor or maybe only get guy with 2 and 4; can't do without 4 (it's a must to me).

Edited March 2, 2014 by samsungxoxo

[topaMAXX]

That's exactly what I mean; if he happens to be all those 3 then he always tends to have a high number of past partners or had a wild phase in his younger years (esp in college). I would turn you down for your 20+ count. Not really want I'm looking for.

 

I'm a low-count woman in her mid-late 20's that's only been with 1 man sexually and never had a ONS nor casual sex. I'm looking for that in a man too. Yes, I'm being very selective and this is what is making it harder to find him. I'm going to end up erasing 1 in the list, then take away 3 too.

 

I guess what I'm looking for is after all a needle in a haystack. I'm ok with I end up with at least 2,3 and 4 but he's not attractive at all or 1,2,4 but he's too serious and has no sense or humor or maybe only get guy with 2 and 4; can't do without 4 (it's a must to me).

 

My story is typical of the "reformed bad boy" types, which I would certainly classify myself to be.

 

I understand where you're coming from. You believe that if a man has a high count (mine isn't THAT high....it's quite low compared to some other guys I know, especially since I lost my virginity when I was 16 and I'm now 27), then he does not value sex.

 

I do agree that this is a valid assumption in many cases, but certainly not all. I also understand that you come from a conservative part of the world and I happen to be very attracted to and prefer to date Latinas (along with Asians). So this is an issue that I've run into before.

 

I implore you to give some of these guys a chance. It would be a shame for you to miss out on a really awesome guy over something like this.

 

Either way, best of luck in your search!

[samsungxoxo]

Either way, best of luck in your search!

To be honest, if I don't find that specific man I'll continue being single. Unfortunately this really is something very important to me.

As far as being conservative on that past, yes that's really the way I am (not to the extreme of waiting till marriage for religious reasons but only sex in a long-term relationship). Though I was born in Peru, I've been raised in the US from ages 4-20 years old. Now, I've been in my country for the longest.

 

It's not that he doesn't value sex but rather we're not compatible and he doesn't share my same views on this.

To me, this feels the same as me not wanting to date a heavy smoker because I'm not one (there are certain things I can't compromose due to my strong views and that's one of them) and never was.

 

But thanks. Will be searching for that needle and I don't mind asking him out and initiating things if the one I'm looking is kind of shy, if that's what it takes to find him.

Edited March 2, 2014 by samsungxoxo