Finally accepting the truth, am i doing the right thing by talkin to a new girl

[rickz2009]

I accepted the fact my ex is gone, im talking to a new girl but i cant help to think of my ex and this girls really pretty and shes doing her best to make me like her more but i keep comparing them in my head idk how can i stop comparing and missing my ex.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

I accepted the fact my ex is gone, im talking to a new girl but i cant help to think of my ex and this girls really pretty and shes doing her best to make me like her more but i keep comparing them in my head idk how can i stop comparing and missing my ex.

 

NO you are not doing the right thing. After making about 6 threads about still wanting to be with your ex. You are not ready to talk to a new girl because you are not healed from the last one. You are nowhere near emotionally available and its not fair to the new girl.

 

Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

[Salvatore85]

Good for you man! You've gotta give this new girl a chance and definitely stop comparing her to your ex. Like this new one for who she is and don't punish her for not being like someone who kicked you to the curb. Good luck man, I'm happy for you!

[StyleOnEm]

It takes time, my dude.

 

Eventually you will think about your ex less and less, while you build new fun memories with this new girl. Old memories will slowly start to fade.

 

Try to relax. Things will get better.

[Phoe]

I don't think it's the right thing.

 

You are not ready, not emotionally available enough for this new girl. She's trying so hard, but you still want your ex.

 

 

You should let the poor girl go before you really hurt her.

[rickz2009]

Everyones giving me good advise i do still have feelings for my ex but i need to move on.

[barky2]

There's absolutely no reason to not TALK have FUN DATE someone new.

 

But you aren't ready for a RELATIONSHIP without hurting the new girl

 

Date.

 

Movies dinners dancing drunk nights get it in all the above

 

But be upfront and say you want to take it slow

 

Don't rush or you'll break her heart.

 

 

 

Barky

[templeofmax]

We are at the same stage!! Its been 6 months of me trying to reach out and her ignoring me!! Know this other girl from as while ago and had not seen her in a long while, so I will ask her out! It feels as if I still have feelings for the other one, but I really just want to get to know this other girl because I cannot keep waiting for something that may not happen and lose the chance of meeting someone way more secure in herself than what my ex was!

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

There's absolutely no reason to not TALK have FUN DATE someone new.

 

But you aren't ready for a RELATIONSHIP without hurting the new girl

 

Date.

 

Movies dinners dancing drunk nights get it in all the above

 

But be upfront and say you want to take it slow

 

Don't rush or you'll break her heart.

 

 

 

Barky

 

This X10000.

[BC1980]

I accepted the fact my ex is gone, im talking to a new girl but i cant help to think of my ex and this girls really pretty and shes doing her best to make me like her more but i keep comparing them in my head idk how can i stop comparing and missing my ex.

 

It's okay if you are not ready to date. If it's been a year, then it's a problem. You should be ready in a year's time I would think. Anyway, even if you are in NC, you can still be obsessed with the relationship and not moving forward. You really have to chip away at it and do the work of making a new life for yourself, understand your new reality, forgive yourself, and truly accept that it's over. Make sure you are doing those things, and you will be making real progress.

[rickz2009]

It's okay if you are not ready to date. If it's been a year, then it's a problem. You should be ready in a year's time I would think. Anyway, even if you are in NC, you can still be obsessed with the relationship and not moving forward. You really have to chip away at it and do the work of making a new life for yourself, understand your new reality, forgive yourself, and truly accept that it's over. Make sure you are doing those things, and you will be making real progress.

 

 

 

 

I was dating her for a year we just broke up less then 3 weeks ago. I know shes probably moved on but i havent and i must talk to someone so i can begin forgetting.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

It's okay if you are not ready to date. If it's been a year, then it's a problem. You should be ready in a year's time I would think. Anyway, even if you are in NC, you can still be obsessed with the relationship and not moving forward. You really have to chip away at it and do the work of making a new life for yourself, understand your new reality, forgive yourself, and truly accept that it's over. Make sure you are doing those things, and you will be making real progress.

 

 

 

 

I was dating her for a year we just broke up less then 3 weeks ago. I know shes probably moved on but i havent and i must talk to someone so i can begin forgetting.

 

You broke up three weeks ago?!? Its still WAY too early to start trying to be in a relationship again. I might say going on a date right now is still WAY too early. You are only using new girl to fill the void of old ex. Stay away for awhile. No wonder you are comparing your ex to new girl lol

[templeofmax]

Very true!!!! I have been 6 months...not 3 weeks, especially if you were with her for a year, wayyy to early....!!!

[rickz2009]

Very true!!!! I have been 6 months...not 3 weeks, especially if you were with her for a year, wayyy to early....!!!

 

 

 

 

 

Th reason im talkin to a new gitl is because my ex told me shes talkin to a new guy.

[Simon Phoenix]

Th reason im talkin to a new gitl is because my ex told me shes talkin to a new guy.

 

That's a stupid reason. You shouldn't be basing what you do on what your ex does. In fact, you should be No Contact so you have no idea what your ex is up to.

[fujidabruin]

Th reason im talkin to a new gitl is because my ex told me shes talkin to a new guy.

 

If I hear you right, it sounds like you are just acting out of part loneliness, part heartbreak, and part jealousy.....

 

If you need someone to talk to, seek out friends, family, or at least use this site for sharing. But, please do not fool yourself into a relationship under the guise that you NEED someone to talk to.

 

I think you already know you are not even close to starting a HEALTHY relationship so just do fun things on your own. Does not mean you are not allowed to meet women or even "hook-up" if its understood between the 2 of you. Not fair to her or yourself to try and create anything beyond "fun" at your stage, would you not agree???

[rickz2009]

That's a stupid reason. You shouldn't be basing what you do on what your ex does. In fact, you should be No Contact so you have no idea what your ex is up to.

 

We were at no contact till this past saturday

I asked her how shes been and she told me why are u texting me and i said sorry are u with someone she said no but she said she wanted me to leaver alone and i asked why are u talking to anyone will that make you stop texting me then yes i am. Im not sure if she was sayingb it to be a bitch or if she meant it but she was convincing to me.

[Simon Phoenix]

We were at no contact till this past saturday

I asked her how shes been and she told me why are u texting me and i said sorry are u with someone she said no but she said she wanted me to leaver alone and i asked why are u talking to anyone will that make you stop texting me then yes i am. Im not sure if she was sayingb it to be a bitch or if she meant it but she was convincing to me.

 

Well, stop texting your ex and it's a di*k move to use this girl as a power play to your ex. You were dumb to break NC and you'd be dumb to do this as a reaction to your ex. Stop trying to dance and sing like a puppet for your ex.

[rickz2009]

Well, stop texting your ex and it's a di*k move to use this girl as a power play to your ex. You were dumb to break NC and you'd be dumb to do this as a reaction to your ex. Stop trying to dance and sing like a puppet for your ex.

 

I do regret breaking the no contact. I know it was hard not to wanna talk to her im new at this idk what to say anymore i do wanna try having this girl as a friend. She talks to me alot so shes been keeping me distracted.

[Simon Phoenix]

That's not to say you can't have fun with other girls. But be honest with them and do it for the right reasons -- to have fun with people you like -- instead of a transparent "look at me" gesture to your ex.

[rickz2009]

That's not to say you can't have fun with other girls. But be honest with them and do it for the right reasons -- to have fun with people you like -- instead of a transparent "look at me" gesture to your ex.

 

Thank you, i am new at this and your words have been strong and understanding to me

[Simon Phoenix]

Thank you, i am new at this and your words have been strong and understanding to me

 

You live, you learn. Breakups suck.

[rickz2009]

I know i have posted alot of threads about how much i miss and love my ex and im trying to move on, so today while at campus my friend gave me a suggestions se said would work. She said that if i pet my ex a voice mail telling her that im stupid for calling her a slut wen i found out she was tlakin to another guy and that hearing me say im sorry and stuff is better than anything else but idk thats why im posting it up so you guys can save me from making another mistake.

[Chi townD]

Nope! just let it go and stay NC. You said what you felt at the time. So, leave sleeping dogs lie.

 

Stay NC.