djcos25 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 (edited) I messaged a girl on OKC this past Sunday and we started messaging back and forth. After quite a few messages I was going to ask her for her number in the next message. Instead, she messaged back with her number saying "Want to text? It's easier." A pleasant surprise. We started texting, and after a few minutes I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink sometime. However, instead of asking her "Would you like to meet up for a drink?", seeing she gave me her number I changed it around and said "If your free sometime this week I'd like to meet up and grab a drink." Sounds more confident I think. She replied "Ok sure :)" She threw in another smiley face later in texting. I kept the texting brief, didn't want to overdue the conversation where it just dies or seems forced. I ended it and said "enjoy the Pats game, I'll be in touch." and she replies "Ok you too!" Tuesday I texted her but she was at work (I texted her after 5, she told me she works until 5 but I later found out she's there until 9 Mon-Tues). I said sorry for bothering you at work and asked if I could call when she's out and she said yes. Later, conversation seemed to flow smooth, no awkward silences or anything. We talked for about 10 minutes. We were going to meet up Wednesday but she had a meeting to go to, my schedule changed too so we moved it to Thursday. She mentioned she had a dog and I said I've been wanting to get one myself. She says "Well maybe you can test mine out." (that got my attention a little). At the end of the conversation she said she'd text me tomorrow. Now, say hypothetically speaking, if she doesn't text me today, should I take that as she's not interested? And again, if she doesn't text me, should I text her tomorrow confirming we are still on? If we are I'm going right from work and will need to bring a change of clothes. Edited October 16, 2013 by djcos25
TheBladeRunner Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Confirm, confirm, confirm! When it comes to OLD dates always.. Awhile back I went through the same thing in my head: "should I text"? Well, I didn't and guess what? I drove into town, paid for parking, and was stood up. Silly me, a grown man actually thinking that no one would do that. I would do just what you said and text her that morning and ask if you are still on. You won't know if she's into you until you meet, and sad to say, OLD has a lot of flakes.....but not all are bad. Good luck! 1
Author djcos25 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Sorry to hear that. A similar situation happened to me, although I even confirmed the night before (we were meeting up for lunch). The next day I'm standing out there by myself like an idiot. I texted her and she claims she texted me saying she couldn't make it. I got no such text. I wasn't as pissed because I had to be downtown anyway. Even if she doesn't text me today like she said, I'm probably going to text her tomorrow to confirm. I was also wondering, judging from what I posted does it seem positive so far, like she might be showing interest? The dog comment kinda stuck out to me lol.
TheBladeRunner Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Sorry to hear that. A similar situation happened to me, although I even confirmed the night before (we were meeting up for lunch). The next day I'm standing out there by myself like an idiot. I texted her and she claims she texted me saying she couldn't make it. I got no such text. I wasn't as pissed because I had to be downtown anyway. Even if she doesn't text me today like she said, I'm probably going to text her tomorrow to confirm. I was also wondering, judging from what I posted does it seem positive so far, like she might be showing interest? The dog comment kinda stuck out to me lol. It can SEEM that way (that it's positive), but you won't know until you know. I hope you get a good one, but my experience with OLD has been a little rough. Same thing happens, we even meet, then they vanish. I would rather have them just tell me it's not a match. And what you mentioned about them saying they texted you? That has happened to me once as well.
Author djcos25 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 She ended up calling me tonight on her way home from her meeting, we talked for like 20 minutes. Conversation went good. She asked what my Halloween costume would be this year, I told her Mario or Jake from State Farm (she liked both, thought the Jake costume was a great idea). I asked if we were still on for tomorrow and she said yes (I felt weird asking, I don't know why). She said she'd text me tomorrow to set up a time, she has an errend to run then wants to go to the gym real quick. So far so good. We'll see.
Author djcos25 Posted October 18, 2013 Author Posted October 18, 2013 (edited) Good news. We met up for drinks last night, we were there for about 3 hours. The night went well, and we were both also watching the Red Sox game so that took some of the pressure off I think. Long story short, after we were done she drove me to my car, I asked her to dinner and she said sure. We made out a little bit, and when I got home I was debating if I should text her saying I had a good time. She texted me with a picture of her and her dog saying "Riley and I say goodnight!" (I like dogs and asked to see her dog earlier). I texted back goodnight and later she viewed my profile again. As I type this now she just texted me. Edited October 18, 2013 by djcos25 3
TheBladeRunner Posted October 18, 2013 Posted October 18, 2013 Right on dj, keep us posted, I'm happy it went well!
Author djcos25 Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 I added her on facebook today, when I asked to add her she said "I don't mind at all :)" I'm going to a bar tomorrow for the Red Sox game so I figured I'd invite her. She asked what time but its still pending on what happens tonight with the National League game. I told her I'd let her know the time, and we're still on for dinner on Sunday.
Author djcos25 Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 (edited) So I got good news and bad news. The good news is we are pretty much all but official. We hung out all weekend, we might do something Wednesday, and we got plans this weekend. The bad news. She sat me down and we had a talk on Sunday. Her longest relationship was 5 years, the guy cheated on her and she didn't know. She found out when she went to the doctor. She got an STD from him, from when he cheated on her. She got herpes (and HPV I think, don't hold me to that I'm drawing a blank on the last one), but has told me she's on medication to prevent breakouts. I feel bad because she told me did nothing wrong in the relationship and she's getting punished for it. How do I proceed with this? We fooled around this past weekend, we haven't had sex but she wanted to tell me before we started doing anything if it led to sex. I felt uncomfortable when she told me, obviously cause I don't want to catch it. I am also somewhat new, I lost my virginity last year, I've only had sex with one girl (my ex, relationship lasted about 10 months, wore a condom everytime except once). I hope thats ok for me to say. Like I said I'm still somewhat new to this so I'm just trying to get all the info I can. Edited October 22, 2013 by djcos25
jrtfrisco Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Wow, that's a curve-ball in the story. If you like her, then you accept her condition and take safe measures to prevent catching it from her. If you are unsure how much you like her at the moment, then continue seeing her, but proceed slowly, and especially withhold from any sexual activity. Good luck.
Author djcos25 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 Things seem odd now. It seems like she doesn't know what she wants now. We acted like we were a couple, holding hands and everything, kissing, making out etc. We just never had a talk about being official or anything. She came over Saturday night, we kissed. Went to a bar with some of my friends for a costume party. At the end of the night we hugged, gave her a kiss. Sunday I went over her house to watch football. She ended up having a talk with me, saying she's hesitant to get into a relationship, she needs a few days to think. She was excited to see me last weekend, now this past weekend she didn't feel that. She claims she has some feelings for me. She said that's how she gets sometimes and gets confused. She asked if I was mad, I said no but I wasn't happy, but I'm not going to get upset of how someone feels, I can't change someones feelings. When I left we hugged but we didn't kiss. I also felt it was odd that her Dad pretty much didn't acknowledge that I was there, didn't say hi or anything. Later she texted me again asking if I was mad, we pretty much had the same conversation. I told her I appreciated that she was up front with me rather then avoid me, she says she is not like that. She asked if we weren't dating if we could remain friends. I told her to me it seems like you have your mind made up. She said she doesn't. Later I asked her if I said or did anything wrong and she said no. She asked if we can still talk in the meantime I said yea. I didn't initiate contact and she texted me today, we talked briefly. Where should I go from here? She's still active on the dating site so maybe she started talking to someone else and is leaving me as an option?
Lansing Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 Had you told her that you had only had sex with one person? Maybe she was worried you would get more attached to her than she wanted.. maybe she just wanted things to be more casual? Really hard to tell... And at least she didn't go GHOST on you.
Author djcos25 Posted October 28, 2013 Author Posted October 28, 2013 I did tell her that, she really seems like she doesn't care. Hell she told me about her condition last week. When she texted me when I got home yesterday she did tell me she felt bad and cried a little bit, she didn't want to hurt me or anything. I guess I'll just have to wait and see. If a week goes by and she hasn't talked to me about it should I bring it up? I don't want to hound her but I don't want to be in the loop. I think if I do ask though she probably won't care.
todreaminblue Posted October 28, 2013 Posted October 28, 2013 I messaged a girl on OKC this past Sunday and we started messaging back and forth. After quite a few messages I was going to ask her for her number in the next message. Instead, she messaged back with her number saying "Want to text? It's easier." A pleasant surprise. We started texting, and after a few minutes I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink sometime. However, instead of asking her "Would you like to meet up for a drink?", seeing she gave me her number I changed it around and said "If your free sometime this week I'd like to meet up and grab a drink." Sounds more confident I think. She replied "Ok sure :)" She threw in another smiley face later in texting. I kept the texting brief, didn't want to overdue the conversation where it just dies or seems forced. I ended it and said "enjoy the Pats game, I'll be in touch." and she replies "Ok you too!" Tuesday I texted her but she was at work (I texted her after 5, she told me she works until 5 but I later found out she's there until 9 Mon-Tues). I said sorry for bothering you at work and asked if I could call when she's out and she said yes. Later, conversation seemed to flow smooth, no awkward silences or anything. We talked for about 10 minutes. We were going to meet up Wednesday but she had a meeting to go to, my schedule changed too so we moved it to Thursday. She mentioned she had a dog and I said I've been wanting to get one myself. She says "Well maybe you can test mine out." (that got my attention a little). At the end of the conversation she said she'd text me tomorrow. Now, say hypothetically speaking, if she doesn't text me today, should I take that as she's not interested? And again, if she doesn't text me, should I text her tomorrow confirming we are still on? If we are I'm going right from work and will need to bring a change of clothes. always confirm......cant stress this enough.....deb
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