eotdevice Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 My story...my marriage was ending and I was legally separated. I ended up dating a woman I had been friends with since the 7th grade. We were both 40 at the time we started to date. Things went very well for 2 years and we were like two peas in a pod. Then she pulled back. She felt overwhelmed and out of control. (As an aside she has anxiety issues and takes meds for same). I was non-existent to her for 2 months. She came back but wanted changes. I could not agree to having a part time partner so I ended it. I felt it was the right thing to do mentally. But I was devastated emotionally. I tried to convince her to come back, pleaded, begged, all that stupid stuff. She wanted to be free. Even though I broke up with her I wanted the "old" her back. Fast forward to a year later. I have always thought about her, every day. I had contacted her a few times over that period but no real responses. Dated some new women, but they never quite matched up to her. never had that same spark. My father died about a month ago and this ex found out. She attended the services. Was very upset about bout his passing and asked me to meet her to discuss. I agreed to meet for dinner. We talked about a lot. I told her how I felt about her all this time. She doesn't trust me and told me I had broken her heart by ending the relationship. I told her I understood but still loved her. But as I sat there and listened to her stories from the past year I realized that I had very little in common with this woman. At 42 she is still a partier, likes to drink alot, and is not really a practical person. The attraction, the love, the desire to be with her faded to dang near nothing. I will probably remain friends with her, but I just don't see us getting together again. It was an amazing experience. I still think about her, the way we were, but I no longer feel a need to chase her or hold out hope. So just sharing one breakup story that may not have a happy ending, but it was very enlightening to me. Chris
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