Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Ok known this guy a year. We were casually seeing each other for awhile. Talked almost every day he'd tect me he misses me telling me I'm beautiful and smart. Had sex twice and hung out plenty of times with no sex. Last month he's been distant. Don't think it's due to sex bc we slept together awhile ago. Told me before I made him happier than he's been in a long time. We've barely talked past month. Only thing I can think is. I never initiate hang outs and I don't say a lot of sweet things to him like he does to me. (I get scared to be open even though I really like him). I've tried the past month moving on from this guy but I can't. I wanna text him that I miss him, but I'm so scared of looking clingy, dumb or annoying. (He's 26 I'm 27) ugh what should I do. By the way I don't think he was just using me. I've been in FWB situations. I was thinking of texting him "miss you ..." Then adding a dumb nickname to make it more playful and less serious. What you think?
LifeGoesOnMan Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 stop thinking so much lol you guys didn't "break up" or anything like that.. right? you guys sorta dated & messed around, but nothing exclusive.. so whats the harm in texting him a simple "hey whats up?"..guys love when girls text them first, trust me...guys also don't like initiating because they fear it was also make them look "clingy"or "needy". just text him lol I would say "miss you" just a simple whats up.
ScienceGal Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Just do it already! Be open, be honest. Be YOU! No regrets.
Author Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Why can't I say miss you. But say it in a friendly playful way? He used to say it to me before anything happened between us
ScienceGal Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 You can say whatever you want to say. Life isn't scripted.
Author Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 You can say whatever you want to say. Life isn't scripted. Do you think saying I miss him in this situation is Clingy
Author Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 You can say whatever you want to say. Life isn't scripted. I'm gonna text him "miss you" with a playful name. Life is too short to be afraid. If he doesn't respond or doesn't say it back I can move on. I don't have to see this guy everyday so I won't be embarrassed. If you miss someone you should say it. It didnt stop him when we were just frirnds before anything happened and I didn't feel the same yet. But ill admit its what got me thinking about him as more.
Mascara Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Couple of things here. Firstly, why have you not spoken much in the last month? Is he pulling away? If so, the last thing you should do is text him that you miss him. Think about someone in your past... a guy who liked you, but who you didn't care for at all. If he'd sent a text saying "miss you" it would just make you cringe and roll your eyes, right? So if this guy is losing interest, it's going to be him rolling his eyes when he gets that text. Secondly, saying "miss you" is kind of accusatory when there's no real reason for to be apart. If one of you is working away for example, of course couples are going to say "miss you". When there is NO reason, those 2 words are basically saying "Why haven't you called me? Why are we not going out? Where are you?" If you must text him, send something cheerful or non-committal. For example, find a quirky little bar, send him the link and "dying to try this place, what do you think?" Or "god the last few weeks have been busy, how are things with you".
Author Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Couple of things here. Firstly, why have you not spoken much in the last month? Is he pulling away? If so, the last thing you should do is text him that you miss him. Think about someone in your past... a guy who liked you, but who you didn't care for at all. If he'd sent a text saying "miss you" it would just make you cringe and roll your eyes, right? So if this guy is losing interest, it's going to be him rolling his eyes when he gets that text. Secondly, saying "miss you" is kind of accusatory when there's no real reason for to be apart. If one of you is working away for example, of course couples are going to say "miss you". When there is NO reason, those 2 words are basically saying "Why haven't you called me? Why are we not going out? Where are you?" If you must text him, send something cheerful or non-committal. For example, find a quirky little bar, send him the link and "dying to try this place, what do you think?" Or "god the last few weeks have been busy, how are things with you". Now I'm confused. Idk maybe ill just be done. I thought maybe he was pulling away bc I wasn't showing my feelings. Not gonna text him.
Mascara Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 If he's pulling away, it could be that he's just lost interest. That's why you CAN text, but not "miss you". Guys will say things like "oh text him, I love getting texts like that". Well yes, we all do. Unless it's someone we're not interested in. And until you know WHY he's pulling away - don't send anything needy.
Archanaart Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 (edited) This is your FOURTH post on this damn topic. "Should I text him I miss you?" you don't even change the damn words! It's getting old. You don't seem to listen to any advice on here. Move the f**k on or find a way to tell him how you feel. Edited October 16, 2013 by Archanaart
Author Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 This is your FOURTH post on this damn topic. "Should I text him I miss you?" you don't even change the damn words! It's getting old. You don't seem to listen to any advice on here. Move the f**k on or find a way to tell him how you feel. I apologize I suck I know. I texted him I miss him. He texted back he misses me too that he thought I've been mad at him about something, we are hanging out this week.
Author Beachlife88 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 If he's pulling away, it could be that he's just lost interest. That's why you CAN text, but not "miss you". Guys will say things like "oh text him, I love getting texts like that". Well yes, we all do. Unless it's someone we're not interested in. And until you know WHY he's pulling away - don't send anything needy. Thx for the advice but I decided to put it all out there and it had positive results. Playing safe Is usually how I live.
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