Onlyafterdark Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Hello everyone im going thru a separation 13 years together 4 years married think she may have g.i.g.s Anyway 4mnths on i was doing ok then she leaves a txt saying im blowing all my chances(wtf) so few days went by and i asked in what way am i blowing my chances, heres her reply 'what i ment was in the future who knows maybe a year or 2 down the line' Ive not been nc cause i facetime the kids everynight,my big thing at the moment is am i giving her to much free time i have the kids 3 days a week since we broke up she goes to her friends farm doing jobs,whilst shes there shes staying over getting drunk.So im aving the kids at her place all fri nite and thru to sat teatime. Reason im doing this is im back at my mums flat i have the kids one at a time,she has said her mum will look after them but the kids do not like her.So what would ppl suggest shouldi do this for the kids and forget her i dont know whats best.I also think if i keep this up will she change her mind Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 Backstory: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/420564-separation Reading your other thread, shes stringing you along and has been for some time, giving you just enough to keep you in the fight, but not really letting you gain any ground. She has a lot of things she needs to figure out for herself and shes not going to do that until you quit playing her games. She's right, in a couple years who knows, but right now shes not a suitable partner for anyone. Do whats right for the kids. The question isn't if she will change her mind but why she would change her mind. If that's not for the right reasons, then it just continues to be an endless circle. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onlyafterdark Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Tojaz thanks for the reply and for inserting my story to this many nice ppl here Link to post Share on other sites
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