irc333 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 There's this woman I had known on and off through the Meetups for the past year, she's been single AND not dating anyone for the past 3 years because , let's just say that last relationship was a doozey for her. Anyhow, she has an attraction to me and likes being with me, she's usually rather a hermit otherwise and doesn't get out much. We talked about dating and she tells me she really likes me, but prefers to takes things slow and we can hang out and stuff, but that's her decision at that point. She usually prefers hanging out with me at the events after we do our mingling with others at the parties, but we always wind up together at the end of the night hanging out and stuff. So I don't know if she is indicating any kind of exclusivity?
todreaminblue Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 There's this woman I had known on and off through the Meetups for the past year, she's been single AND not dating anyone for the past 3 years because , let's just say that last relationship was a doozey for her. Anyhow, she has an attraction to me and likes being with me, she's usually rather a hermit otherwise and doesn't get out much. We talked about dating and she tells me she really likes me, but prefers to takes things slow and we can hang out and stuff, but that's her decision at that point. She usually prefers hanging out with me at the events after we do our mingling with others at the parties, but we always wind up together at the end of the night hanging out and stuff. So I don't know if she is indicating any kind of exclusivity? people who are reclusive when they say they want to actually go out with you and take it slow are not normally planning on it being a casual thing......most are unlikely to be dating others seeing how going out isnt common...being a person who doesnt go out much .....means you dont have normally multiple dates ...one guy is enough and about all you can handle ...if you are a hermit .......deb
RedRobin Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 people who are reclusive when they say they want to actually go out with you and take it slow are not normally planning on it being a casual thing...... Exactly. Also, people who are careful about who they date (even if they aren't reclusive) always go slow. It's only in this day and age when 'normal' is considered sleeping with near strangers that the term 'go slow' is misinterpreted. In the past, nearly everyone went slow... or they got married.
Mrlonelyone Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 IRC. How would you feel if you found out that this woman had a FWB that she saw occasionally (possibly an Ex BF...possibly the one she had a bad R with)? I ask because that's what seems to happen in these situations. A reasonably attractive woman who has had relationships in her past doing totally without sexual intimacy, at least occasionally, for years, is almost unheard of. Unless that woman has a psychological issue around sex. Note I am not talking dating I am talking ****ing. Yoau'd be surprised how many people are more careful about who they "date" than who they "mate".
Author irc333 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 We had discussed this matter. She admitted to me that she had a one time fling with a high school friend from out of town, but that was quite some time ago. She told me she isn't into the FWB thing, at least doesn't have routine sex with anyone that's in a FWB situation, and I am not either. She said there's those "spooky" diseases out there....so she isn't one to take those kinds of risks. IRC. How would you feel if you found out that this woman had a FWB that she saw occasionally (possibly an Ex BF...possibly the one she had a bad R with)? I ask because that's what seems to happen in these situations. A reasonably attractive woman who has had relationships in her past doing totally without sexual intimacy, at least occasionally, for years, is almost unheard of. Unless that woman has a psychological issue around sex. Note I am not talking dating I am talking ****ing. Yoau'd be surprised how many people are more careful about who they "date" than who they "mate".
FitChick Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Nothing wrong with taking it slow if you enjoy each others company. 1
TB Rhine Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Are you sleeping together? If so, enjoy the ride and let her come around to whatever else might exist between the two of you in her own time. If not, she will 'take it slow' with you right up until the moment she jumps into bed with some better-looking dude who flagged her down in the Walmart parking lot. Then she'll talk about the 'magical connection' she and that guy had. Then cry on your shoulder when it turns out to be a one-night stand. This is all purely hypothetical, of course.
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