datingguy Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Hi All, I need some advice. It has been 1.5 years ago since my ex-wife left me and took our then 8 month old son. He is now 25 months old and I have had to fight for my son. I have spent over 30k and have had three attorneys. When she left she told me I wouldn't be a good father and that has haunted me ever sense. I was married for over 8 years. She has had this concept of he only needs his mom. It was been just crazy. We haven't been able to coparent and she has been rude and I have had to fight for everything I have in regards to time with my son. She is really weird about clothes, she always puts him in the ugliest clothes when he comes to see me and I have never done that to her. She purposely changes him when he is coming to my house. I have always given back clothes and quite frankly don't even care what he goes to her house in. When I pick him up she will sometimes say "Oh, you don't want to go with Daddy", but you have too. It just kills me inside. This was a woman I loved dearly and now she has this super mom complex. What drives this attitude of a son doesn't need his Dad? Why can't she just give up? We have court date next week and she totally has no case trying to change custody? Will she likely be more agreeable and easier to work with once all that is over or am I doomed to a difficult woman/mother the rest of my life? I pay $900 child support and want to work with her vs against her but I just keep getting hurt. I am doing the best for my son and don't show her how her actions affect me but they are killing me especially because they are impacting my son. I am likely to win 50/50 parenting time next week starting next year next week in court. I am just amazed I have stood up and fought for my son. If I win next week the tears will be flowing. Thanks for any insight. Dan
Philosoraptor Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Sounds like you're a good father Dan. Do not let her poor attitude make you feel like you've done anything wrong. She doesn't have a "super mom complex". She is trying to hurt you and using your child as a means of trying to get under your skin and make you feel like a bad person. She has a crappy mom complex, and if you treat your son right your son will grow to resent his mothers behavior as he grows up. Just worry about taking care of your boy and not what the bitchy mother has to say.
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