rose27 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Are there certain guys out there who appreciate being pursued by a woman or does it always come across as pushy? I want to try a different approach with this guy that I really like and have been seeing here and there but I have a lot of pride and I hate rejection. He has slight anxiety and I feel like he might appreciate it since I don't really open up a lot due to my fear of rejection and being hurt. I figure I have nothing to lose (except for my pride perhaps ) We've already been out and we have kissed so we're past that, it's just that I want to get to know him more and I would like to see if we could have more than just a platonic relationship. I thought that perhaps I could be the one to ask him out instead of the other way around even though I'm used to males pursuing me. Any thoughts or opinions on this? I don't want to seem desperate or anything and I'd like advice before taking this approach.
lakerman34 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Are there certain guys out there who appreciate being pursued by a woman or does it always come across as pushy? I want to try a different approach with this guy that I really like and have been seeing here and there but I have a lot of pride and I hate rejection. He has slight anxiety and I feel like he might appreciate it since I don't really open up a lot due to my fear of rejection and being hurt. I figure I have nothing to lose (except for my pride perhaps ) We've already been out and we have kissed so we're past that, it's just that I want to get to know him more and I would like to see if we could have more than just a platonic relationship. I thought that perhaps I could be the one to ask him out instead of the other way around even though I'm used to males pursuing me. Any thoughts or opinions on this? I don't want to seem desperate or anything and I'd like advice before taking this approach. Don't take offense to this, but I think you'd show even MORE pride if you WEREN'T afraid of rejection. It means you keep yourself together better. If you look at my recent thread I started in this forum, I have been pursuing this girl for quite some time. Now, it feels more 50/50, and it's kind of weird. I think it depends on the guy. I would tell you that personally, I HATE pursuing because I always feel like it's such a stupid game and it makes me a bit anxious, but if I'm being pursued, I feel useless and the girl loses value in my eyes. 1
Eivuwan Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Don't take offense to this, but I think you'd show even MORE pride if you WEREN'T afraid of rejection. It means you keep yourself together better. If you look at my recent thread I started in this forum, I have been pursuing this girl for quite some time. Now, it feels more 50/50, and it's kind of weird. I think it depends on the guy. I would tell you that personally, I HATE pursuing because I always feel like it's such a stupid game and it makes me a bit anxious, but if I'm being pursued, I feel useless and the girl loses value in my eyes. I think it's weird that you think a 50/50 relationship is weird.
Assasda Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Definately ask him out. Do something fun then, go for the thigh rub - Then its on babygirl!! 1
Author rose27 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Thanks guys! A lot to think about but I'm still a little confused. I haven't been in contact with him for a couple of days and I think I'll wait until the weekend to contact him. I've started to notice that he has wayyyy too many options and I don't like being one of many, but I guess that's how dating works. If it's meant to happen it will. I don't know if I can control fate by doing something I don't normally do in order to end up with a guy who didn't show as much interest as other men have in the past. I think I'll try one last time and if it fails, I can learn from it and move on. I'll keep you all posted!
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