Going to 6 months from BU!!! Still miss her like crazy!Thoughts?

[templeofmax]

For those who don´t know the story, 2.5 years with ups and lots of small petty fights since she is very insecure and sometimes I wasn´t patient enough and should have been more compassionate! I just felt attacked, like I couldn´t be myself, like I couldn´t hang out with my sister since she would get upset, stuff like this. Still, she is a humble, very giving girl and she knows she needed to work on her issues. Last fight she got upset at me involving her family in our stupid fights and she broke it off, families got involved, insults to my sister from one of her cousins out of assumptions from my ex, etc. Have tried to communicate with her several times, but she just refuses to speak to me.

 

I have taken my time to work on my anger issues and on being more patient and respectful and my last messages to her have been about this, telling her that I have to be selfless and letting her work on her issues since one time about a year ago she did say that she wasn´t healthy to be in a relationship. Sometimes I think she does not answer me since I was always pushing her to stay in the relationship cause I did not want to lose her, so she is avoiding that, but I would want to believe she still has feelings for me. I have gone No contact, but somehow I break it off. Now its been a month and I don´t feel the anxiety to reach out and I started not missing her so much, but these last couple of weeks I started to think about her a lot again and don´t know what to do.

 

There is this other girl I am interested in and she agreed to go out with me when she returns from a business trip. I´ve known her almost all my life, but had not seen her in a long while. I want to give myself another chance, especially after 6 months of my ex not talking. However, sometimes I imagine myself going to her place, waiting for her and talking to her if she is receptive to it, telling her that I do love her and that I am making changes, but I don´t want to lose her forever and I can give her whatever space she needs. Basically so she sees I am not pushing, but that I can be patient for her cause I know going back to the same old wouldn´t work anyhow. She was always jealous and afraid of me abandoning her because of her low self-esteem, so its very ironic that she broke it off. The break up was for the better, but I know today I could be more giving and patient for her. I just don´t know! It feels as if she is going to be on my mind for a long while, but I also want to give me another chance with this girl, go out on a date at least and see how it goes. This girl is also looking for a good Jewish boy, so I want to go out with her and not miss the chance since it is hard to find good Jewish girls, especially since I know her and she is from my country and out parents are good friends. I cannot be waiting for for something that may never happen with my ex or wait until I stop missing her, but yet I miss her, even after 6 months and sometimes I cannot see myself not seeing her again. Any thoughts?

Edited October 16, 2013 by templeofmax

[templeofmax]

C;mon people, any thoughts pretty please?

[all_cats_rgray]

I think no one has responded so fast because....

 

the answer is YES.

 

The question I assume since I didn't read the post is.

 

Will I stop missing my ex.

 

the answer is YES.

 

 

Sorry its the question everyone asks here.

 

Keep NC, concentrate on yourself. The real thing miss here is just more time. Six months is not a long time.

 

Time heals all wounds.