geegee81 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 I found this online and wanted to share. “I can’t save anyone but myself. I am not doing a man/ woman a service by accepting behavior from him that I know is unacceptable. Sometimes the best gift I can give a man/woman who is irresponsible and unaccountable is ‘goodbye.’ I give myself permission to put myself first and to be selfish. I am worth enough to know I deserve better than what he/she is capable of offering me! A soulmate is someone who ADDS to my life, not someone who needs me selfishly and drains me of my life force.” 7
h0000 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 every now and then I feel that he cant offer what I want because hes out of my league and he has no interest in offering what i want.like the rejection kind of feeling. .how do I stop feeling bad about myself?
Salvatore85 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 every now and then I feel that he cant offer what I want because hes out of my league and he has no interest in offering what i want.like the rejection kind of feeling. .how do I stop feeling bad about myself? Out of your league how?
Author geegee81 Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 You feel that he is out of your league? Please explain. I once dated a guy that seemed like he had his life together. He was a home owner, good career, lots of friends and family, etc. At that time I was unemployed and in school. I felt that he was better than me because I hadn’t met my career goals and I was broke. He feed into this behavior and basically told me that I had nothing to bring to the table. I felt like a loser. He didn’t support me and broke me further…..I ran from that relationship and never looked back. A year or 2 later, the guy contacted me again trying to reconnect. I laughed and didn’t respond. I now have a great career, I look fantastic, and he never deserved me anyway. I’m still the same sweet heart that I was back then. Nothing has changed about me. He intentionally wanted to break me so that I would stick around. So my point is that you should never feel inferior. If you want to feel good about yourself, you have to get your life together.
h0000 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 yes out of the league is like he has a sweet life but I don't have much to bring to the table. he is very smart and talented im just average. he has lots of friends im just introverted. .. there are so many girls around him why would he care to offer anything to me that sort of feeling...like a football team captain and a nerdy school girl..he just used her and dumped her like a rubbish im a little exaggerating.
Author geegee81 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 You have to do whatever it takes to build yourself esteem. If it takes going to school, getting a job, a new hair do, a new hobby, losing weight, etc. You have to do it. If you want to make new friends in your state....make it happen. Go on meetup.com and join social groups. You will end up chasing the man away if you keep acting inferior. Does he support you? Or is he making you feel bad? Is this problem in your head or his?
h0000 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 no he doesn't make me feel bad, i just worship him too much i guess? .but he doesnt compliment me much either so that contributes to the problem... he does think himself is pretty desirable though.He once even told me " sometimes i feel so spoiled. i get whatever i want and i even get whoever woman i want".
Ireallydontknow Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 yes out of the league is like he has a sweet life but I don't have much to bring to the table. he is very smart and talented im just average. he has lots of friends im just introverted. .. there are so many girls around him why would he care to offer anything to me that sort of feeling...like a football team captain and a nerdy school girl..he just used her and dumped her like a rubbish im a little exaggerating. Nerdy school girls are hot. I had to say it.
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