LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 So I had been hooking up with this guy for about two years but it ended a year ago. Initially it seemed like we were going to date but it didn't happen that way and we ended up fighting a lot until eventually it ended for good. I was casually dating after and he had a girlfriend as well. A year later I hear from him wanting to hook up. The past month, 4 months since the first time he had been contacting me more often. I thought it was a second chance but then he tells me his gf broke up with him and that's why he came to me. Why would he do this to me again? He knows how I feel and why would he even want to start things again when it was so bad the last time. Why would he try contacting me for four months after not speaking for so long and then tell me he doesn't like me? Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 It was bad the last time? Your post is confusing Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 We fought a lot and got jealous and broke it off then went back to each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 Why would he want to invite that drama back into his life? Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 Because your're probably less needy than the chick that he was with before. If you want to be with him, Try to have fun with him, just like you did before, but without sex. Then when you feel, he's closer to you, have sex with him. So no sex, so that you know that he's not using you as a rebound Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 his gf broke up with him. that would not make you feel like a backup? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 She broke up with him and he was sad and just wanted sex from me. Apparently they are back together now... Obviously I like him and even though we were never in a relationship I felt we had a connection. In the beginning he made an effort to date me but I didn't. The thing that confuses me is that he started this months ago and they weren't broken up then that I know of. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 he is so selfish for trying to use you as a rebound. he doesn't have common decency and integrity. dont lower yourself and associate with scumbags. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 I was really mad. He told me not to tell her but my friend did today. What do you think will happen? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 How can someone sleep with someone for two years and deal with the drama and bs for so long if it didn't mean something or if he didn't have some feelings? Who would put up with that for someone they really didn't like? Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 doesnt matter he comes to you again or not. as long as he ismt serious about you, you should not be with him. he will hurt you again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 I know I shouldn't but I just wish I understood why he would do that and if he really doesn't have feelings for me Link to post Share on other sites
Sweet108 Posted October 15, 2013 Share Posted October 15, 2013 Yes, he is a jerk. You are the backup plan for his ego kibbles and/or sex. Don't lower yourself, you're worth way more than this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Author Share Posted October 15, 2013 You don't think there isn't even some feelings there for me on his end ? Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 You don't think there isn't even some feelings there for me on his end ? there was. is that important? cuz there isnt anymore. im going through the same thing. ex had feelings for me but it wasnt love and it didnt last long. And he dumped me cuz feelings disappeared. he now just wants sex . doesnt even care about me not even as a friend. ur ex was just using you to kill his relationship amd his own emotional problems. cuz he cant find anyone else and you are convenient and still doable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 It's just hard to accept that. I don't know why his girlfriend broke up with him or why they got back together. I'm also afraid about my friend telling his gf what he was doing with me. I told him I wouldn't tell her and I assume now she knows Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 It just hurts to accept that. I am also afraid that he will be mad that my friend told the girlfriend he has been trying to hook up with me. I told him I wouldn't tell her. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 dont you have a nosey friend. You do you even care about him and his gf anyway. yeah it hurts to accept. .I was hurt still am. but..sh*t happens.what choice do we have? .time can heal and next time stay away from scumbags Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 It's pretty pathetic but I'm wondering if they will break up again Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 It's pretty pathetic but I'm wondering if they will break up again it is very possible. and its also possible he comes to you again. and then, are you gonna open your arms and embrace him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 I probably would even though I know it's illogical. I'm not sure how to change how I feel about him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 When he told me he had a gf I got pretty upset and he said some not nice things to me. In the end he apologized for hurting me and we agreed not to talk anymore but now his gf knows he was trying stuff with me. Link to post Share on other sites
h0000 Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I probably would even though I know it's illogical. I'm not sure how to change how I feel about him. slowly you will become logical. and if you do embrace him, no big deal. he's just gonna dump you again for some other girls later on, not like it hasn't happened before. what i do suggest is, if he comes back when you still cant think logically, at least let him prove he loves you first and take it super sloooooooow. unless you wanna be used for sex then have a good ride. Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted October 16, 2013 Share Posted October 16, 2013 I probably would even though I know it's illogical. I'm not sure how to change how I feel about him. You need to work on changing how you feel about yourself. It doesn't matter why he is doing any of this. All that matters is that he is, and that it's wrong and hurtful. You're allowing yourself to be used and you need to make the choice to stop it. You have to believe you're worthy of love and that you deserve to be fully loved. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LittleDemon Posted October 16, 2013 Author Share Posted October 16, 2013 Thanks for being honest with me. I just wish he loved me. Link to post Share on other sites
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