93TheHitStick Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Is this the right thing to do? I have broken up with a lot of girls for no other reason then that they "acted different" in fact 99% of the time that is reason i will stop talking to a girl. By different i mean they act as if they aren't having fun. When i first start dating a girl they always love everything about me. Everything i do is the greatest thing ever. Its like they idolize me. But then later on in the relationship they act as if they are annoyed with me. They get like mad because i'm happy. Tell me my laugh is ugly. Tell me i shouldn't listen to music. And just start acting like i'm not fun to be around. But then when i try to dump girls they always go "why are you dumping me omg" And i'll be like "well you're acting different..." And they'll be like "omg thats not a reason. Why are you making excuses. why dont you want me. blah blah blah" Idk i feel like i must have an ugly personality or something. Because all girls treat me like this. They like me at first and but then its like they always want to dampen my spirit and they are so annoyed by me. Idk i'm not gonna change who i want to be for anyone so why should i deal with that ya know? But at the same time this happens in all my relationships. So could it just be a problem with me? Idk.
Assasda Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Yeah, it is a problem with you. You act like a clown to attract the girls, then you feel the need to be a clown all the time. which would annoy anybody
Author 93TheHitStick Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Yeah, it is a problem with you. You act like a clown to attract the girls, then you feel the need to be a clown all the time. which would annoy anybody I don't act like a clown... not even a funny guy. I just smile a lot which i can't help. I enjoy being happy.
StanMusial Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Many times, girls will try to change a guy after she starts dating him. Ironically, often it's the traits that attracted her in the first place that she tries to erase. The only advice I can give is find one that will put up with you LOL. We all eventually do one way or the other. 2
AlliceInWL Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 If you don't mind, how old are you? And how many relationships have you've had? I can come to some conclusions from what you've written, but I also don't want to assume things and tell you something that's not helpful. I think your age and a little dating history would help.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 If you don't mind, how old are you? And how many relationships have you've had? I can come to some conclusions from what you've written, but I also don't want to assume things and tell you something that's not helpful. I think your age and a little dating history would help. I am 19 years old. Only had 3 real "girlfriends" in my life. But i have been "talking" with a lot of girls recently. Not officially dating just hanging out as more then friends. In the past few months i have "talked" with several girls. Always ends with me cutting them off because they start to act annoyed by me. Whats weird is that they act like i annoy them but then they invite me to hangout and get mad when i leave? Doesn't make sense.
AlliceInWL Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 This is purely opinion and you can take it or leave it. It sounds like you are really good at meeting new people and making people feel comfortable around you, which is a great quality, but you have trouble developing relationships on a more intimate level. If that seems at all accurate, it might be helpful to understand that girls (usually) aren't interested in being buddies who have sex. They want to have fun, but they also want you to be interested in them, ask them questions about their interests, childhood, dreams, etc., and they want you to share about yourself. The relationship should progress (even if it's slowly), and a girl can get frustrated if it stays stagnant for too long.
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