humph.. Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 A question for everyone here.. When relationships break up and people get back together or people have a 'break' from eachohter and then resolve the issues, can that the relationship can last? In other words, when people get back together, is there hope? Im only asking because every single situation i have been in or witnessed, whenever a 'break' was agreed on say, to not see eachother for a little while and take some time to think things through, the final breakup followed within a few months. With friends i have also witnessed people breaking up and then getting back together months later...to only end the relationship down the track anyway. So do you think a relationship can ever work after a break/break up?
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 It can work, but only if you are willing to change those things that made it necessary to take a break to begin with. I've seen a lot of people 'take a break' only to get back in the relationship and continue as if nothing happened. Then they break up again. Its inevitable, if you take a break only to settle back again into the same relationship. I've seen people take substantial breaks, take the time to rethink what they want from the relationship and grow more as an individual - and then take that new knowledge and experience and work it into a healthier relationship that uses the 'pre-break' one as a base, and it worked just fine. It all depends on how willing both partners are to learn from their mistakes, and how willing they are to accept that the 'post-break' relationship can never be exactly the same as the 'pre-break' relationship if it is expected to survive. It is also entirely dependent on what they mean by 'taking a break'.
Jilly10340 Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 Personally, I'm against taking breaks. To me, taking a "break" from each other is kind of like saying: "Here, I'm going to sit you to the side for a little bit and go out and do everything I want to do without you disapproving. If I get bored or don't find someone who I think is better, I be back along to pick you back up again." To me, that doesn't sound good. And every relationship I've been in or seen where the two people break up and get back together has ended badly somewhere down the road.
alphamale Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 what if the whole relationship is based upon breaking up for a few months then getting back together then breakeing up . you know, the on again off again thing. during the off periods you both date others casually. then the relationship sort of settles into this pattern and it can get quite comfortable cause you know that you'll get that built in break coming up soon. i've been in a relationship like this for 3.5 yrs and it is great. we are both afraid of commitment and I think the only way our relationship could survive is in this type of on-again/off-again pattern. depends on what you're lookin for right?? i mean, not ALL of us want to get married and have kids and all that shyt.
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