paze Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 I have problems with women's past. That's my problem. In the start of our relationship, I would inquire about her past lovers and attempt to deal with the outcome. One day, she told me that she had slept with a guy and then told me who it was...I was shocked to hear that it was the same guy who had basically tortured me with his buddies at a concert a few years back because of a fight I had with someone in the group. It was extremely hard to swallow but I did, eventually, after breaking up with her and reuniting. I however developed social anxiety when with her seeing as I did NOT want to meet this guy under any circumstances with her. I saw a shrink and went for a month. We had a good time but my anxieties came back when I was looking at other ''gangster'' types and I asked if she had slept with any of them. She denied that but burst out in anger and basically broke up with me. I asked her: ''If it would fix all of my anxiety and trust issues if you would just tell me all of the men you slept with, would you?'' and she answered no. She said that there were things that she was ashamed of and I can't be in a relationship where there are skeletons in the closet. I'm naturally inquisitive/curious but I don't know if that's is. Anyhow, my quality of life was severely reduced in the relationship due to the issues I was developing while trying to fix my other issues and I would just like some input. Just any opinions...She won't answer me, obviously and I don't really want her back either. Still, I am so devastated that I can barely breathe..
LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 You should concentrate on yourself and then you will realize what is right for you and be ready to handle a relationship
Author paze Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Well she decided to send me a list of all the remaining men that I didn't know about. I feel a million times better and I feel that I can finally start this relationship, knowing the foundation which I am about to build on. Is this un-normal?
LittleDemon Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Do you really think that will fix all your issues?
Author paze Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 I honestly do, to some degree, yes. I feel so much better knowing that I won't have to wonder every time I see a 'gangster' type of guy on facebook. I can know for sure and it won't torment me. ALL my issues? No. I will still have jealousy issues but I feel that I have won a great battle.
Assasda Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 She will leave you soon, because you are insecure. Sorry for being so blunt
Author paze Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Looks like we have a psychic in the thread.
bubbaganoosh Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Have you told her about your past? The women who have had sex with? It's only fair but if you meet a woman and she's had past relationships it's history and there isn't anything you can do about it. Same goes for you too.
HorseLuck Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Have you made any progress in therapy? If these are obsessive, intrusive thoughts it makes me think of OCD. 1
Assasda Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Looks like we have a psychic in the thread. easy to read the signs man, easy to read the signs
Author paze Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 easy to read the signs man, easy to read the signs Yes, I am in psychic therapy at the moment.
Author paze Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Have you made any progress in therapy? If these are obsessive, intrusive thoughts it makes me think of OCD. Meant to quote this. Something wrong with the quoting system :/
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