brookebb Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Hi. I'm a college student and living in the same suite as one of my friends, leah, who i met last semester (we both transferred here last semester and met at a meeting). I was going to my friends school an hour away to see her/visit her college. I asked leah if she wanted to come with me for the weekend, and originally she said yes, but then she said no because she wanted to go home to see her dad before he went away, which is understandable and i'm not mad at her for that. so i told her i got my ticket and i was leaving at 3pm on friday and i was excited to go. on sunday when i got back to school, i texted her asking how her weekend was. she told me it was great and she doesn't want to come back and study chemistry. she did not ask me how my weekend was. i figured she'd ask me in person, but she still hadn't. i finally confronted her about it on the way to dinner. i said.. "thanks for asking me how my weekend was at syracuse". she said "ohh yeah how was it?".. and i said.. "you obviously either forgot or don't care since you haven't asked this whole time." and she was like.. "i was going to ask you at dinner". and i said "no i think you just forgot. or you obviously don't care. and it's rude because i asked you about your weekend". so then we ate together at dinner in silence and she still didn't ask about my weekend. and then we parted ways awkwardly after we finished eating, but we did not fight. all my other friends asked me how my weekend was, but her. the truth is.. i had a fun this weekend visiting my friends and i'd do anything to go back. i feel that i have a true connection with them. we also have more in common. another thing that bothers me about leah is that she can't really hold a conversation and she never has anything that interesting to say. she doesn't really talk about guys, etc. she's purely academic and it gets on my nerves. all she talks about is class related stuff. am i wrong for feeling this way? am i being overly sensitive? please be honest. how do i cope with this? how would you feel if you were in my position?
CC12 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 When you feel someone has wronged you, calling them out on it with sarcasm and vitriol isn't the best way to confront it, unless you're purposely wanting to burn a bridge and drive someone away. Were you? I don't even think she did anything that bad. She didn't think to ask you about your weekend. Why were you so offended by that? Did you notice that she did try to fix it after you told her you didn't like what she did? She asked about your weekend. But you wouldn't accept that and instead of answering the question you prompted her to ask, you accused her of not caring and being rude. She couldn't win. I don't think she deserved that from you, and I'm not surprised that the following dinner was silent and awkward. What did you expect to happen? And if she gets on your nerves so much, why do you care if she's interested in your life? I think if you want to keep things with your roommate civil, you should apologize for getting mad at her over something silly. Hopefully, she'll accept your apology and you can go back to being roommates who only hate each other on the surface.
leftfordead2 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 (edited) Wow, talk about an overreaction. Pardon me but you sound very very petty from this description of the incident. She only had not asked you how your weekend was..big deal? Just saw your post history. You need to see a psychiatrist instead of posting here because you sound like you belong to the mental hospital. Edited October 16, 2013 by leftfordead2
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