Daisy2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 If he is like that, she may be better off without him around. My exH was a loser and druggie (didn't know it going in, he hid it well and had a normal good family). I was pregnant when we divorced and he has never been part of her life, she is now 18. They don't even know each other. My current H adopted her wht she was 3. The state made him pay CS till that time. I am so glad she was all mine and I didn't have to share her. 1
2sure Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 I think the OP might be better off filing the child support order and having the wife find out during that process . The OW in these circumstances is really going to have the wrath of BS, because she is going to take the stance that this takes away from her children. I probably would myself. But, that will pass. In the meantime though, you want this to all be on him because he certainly could have and should have told her. She will know that . I do know that he will most certainly have the right to request visitation. Courts do what they deem best for the child and if the situation between both homes is hostile, his visits will be limited at best, until there is a change. Mostly , you have to do what is right for your baby. I know many moms don't want child support...but it isn't for you, it's for the baby, and you don't know what the future holds...to me it seems like the responsible choice. 1
ComingInHot Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Just so you and hopefully give you some peace of mind regarding the Bio/Sperm father/donor, I am Thankful I never knew my biological father. I have seen first hand what his "fathering" did to my younger, biological siblings when I met them way later in life. I feel SO sorry for them!! I don't hate him. I don't "like" him either. I AM so very Glad I don't know him and he didn't have ANY impact on my life. I am waaay better off than Anyone whoever crossed paths with him (from the stories I've heard). Then again, I was adopted, so the whole issue with child support, possible visitation/sharing custody with him and his W when she finds out whatever, I didn't have that either... Guess what I'm saying is that if he Never wants anything to do with you and your daughter, maybe it's a Blessing*
Solcita2 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 I just read your old posts... sorry for the curiosity I'm a little bit confused about the timeline of your story with him... You came back to him after breaking up the first time yourself? After finding out his wife was pregnant (got pregnant while you two were having the A)? You got pregnant after all that? You said that the last time you saw him was after you told him you were pregnant... but in older post you said you broke up with him, then found out she was pregnant and never mentioned anything about being pregnant yourself... sorry for the confusion.. 1
Author hurtnomorerika Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 The OM is a POS, but you cannot see this because you love this man. The real question is why do you love this man? You need IC for this. What is IC?
carhill Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 IC is individual therapy or psychological counseling.
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