BeagleLWC Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 So, I met this girl two weeks ago. She's 19 (I'm 24), she just moved to my city from a small town. She's very quiet. We met on the inauguration party of our university. I became interested in her and at the end of the party, we kissed. I've been on a date with her twice and with every date, there was more physical contact. Then, I invited her to my house and we had sex. It was first sex for both of us... so kind of a big deal. I had some problems with penetration however (because of stress), but at the end we both seemed happy about what happened So long everything's ok. Then, two days later, she wants me to have some drinks with her and our friends. I decline, because I'm sick and don't feel that well. I heared that some guy tried to hook up on her, but she didn't follow. The next day, she tells me that she wants to talk with me about something serious. Something she's not sure about and can't decide. Then she writes to my friend - "I'm going to talk with BeagleLWC today. Wish me luck, or buy some alcohol." So, we meet, she's almost crying. She tells me with that sad voice, that she's very scared about what she's going to tell me now. She says, that it all happened too fast, that in her town it's just not normal. That she just moved in. That she is very shy (it's true) towards men especially, and she's not ready for a relationship right now. I said that I can't force her into anything and that was all. At first I thought that she's just not attracted to me. On the other end, she did have sex with me (it was very awkward, i'm sure it was her first time, she was clearly unexperienced) and we didn't date since then. Did she just realise that she's not into me, just like that? Then I talked to my friend, he said that I should tell her what I feel. I developed feelings for her, I show them, but didn't really state them clearly, so he thinks this is the problem. Maybe she realized that she has so many opportunities in the big city, and just doesn't want to commit? Maybe she just has second thoughts? What do I do, gals and guys? My plan is to meet her again and tell her this time about my feelings. Then ask if she thinks about me the same way. I want to tell her also that I cannot wait for her too long and will move on. Is it a good plan?
deathandtaxes Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 She's being honest with you about not wanting a relationship. Respect her forthrightness and move along. There is no need to talk to her again. That would be disrespecting her wishes. It doesn't matter what she realizes. She told you she's not ready. Leave it at that. Do yourself a favor and go NC. Then go date more women.
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