d_vine61 Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 O.k. well I was dating this guy (his name is sammy) but he broke up with me cause he said "things were going to fast" this happened 3 months ago and we haven't talked since I did text him one time telling him that I erased his number and he text me back asking me why I hated him so much I told him I didn't hate him but that he did hurt me and that I thought he hated me but he never text me back this was about a month ago. Anyways, so I began the healing process, I'm not completely over him but I'm getting there. This past weekened I went out with my friends and we decided to go eat at the restaurant where he works. I was really nervous because I hadn't seen him in awhile but I wanted to prove to him that I'm o.k. with everything, well he didn't work that night but his best friend (which I met when we were dating) was working he said hi to me then one of my friends went to go say hi to one of the waiters and I see his best friend talking to my friend (he doesn't even know her and she doesn't even know the guy I dated) when she comes back she told me that he told her "Oh, Sammy's not working tonight". That kind of threw me off but I decided to brush it off and continue having a good time. Later on that night I called my friend that hooked us up and I told her what his best friend said. The next day I get a call from her and she told me Sammy called her and told her that a few of his co-workers told him that I had gone to eat there she told him what his best friend said and she told me that he got upset with him and told her to tell me that he apologizes for what happened that he doesn't want me to think he's that way (I really don't know what that means). My friend tells me that everytime she talks to him he always asks her about how I'm doing. But what I don't understand is why can't he pick up the phone and find out for himself or apologize to me instead of telling my friend to tell me. And I don't understand why he never text me back it's like he's afraid to talk to me or something. I just want to know what it all means or if it means anything at all. If anyone can give me their opinions I would appreciate it.
monty93 Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 I honestly would not try & figure it out - I know it's tough not to. A similar situation happened with me before. I dated this girl for 6 months, and everything was great & we did start to get pretty serious fast but it was mutual. We both knew where it was heading and agreed on that. Then everything changed and she said that she wants to break up, etc., i did nothing wrong as a bf, but she thinks we moved to fast. There was no other guy either. I stayed away from her b/c I was hurt, never heard from her again, but friends would bump into her here and there and she would ask about me. I figured she'd call me if she wanted to really get in touch with me. Sorry I can't be of much help, but your post reminded me of the pain I went through with that x and I can relate. It took me a long time to accept her justification. Don't know if thats what really happened, or if she lost interest or something, which just came out of nowehere when I looked back on her words/actions. Could really be a problem that they have with committing when things started to get serious. In any event, I have up trying to figure it out. Never will be able to explain what really happened.
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