nyl Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 (edited) Hi, I'm new here. And I must say that I like this board. My situation is kinda ****ed up, considering that our parents and her work in the same place. plus she's 5years older than me (I'm 22). So I 1st met her when she got the job where our parents work. I liked to talk with her as friends. After me and my ex split up, she just jumped in my arms, everything evolved fast day by day, she asked me to keep it a secret not to tell anyone, she didn't wanted our parents to find out. she always told me that she likes me but doesn't love me, it seemed that si lied about it. After 2 weeks, i started to sleep in same bed with her, at her brother's apartment, and in her sleep she started to say that she has hard feelings for me and she hates it. a week later she needed a break and i gave her one, after two weeks she started to search for me, when she found me, she invited me in town, thats when she did a big suprise (one that i didn't liked, considering that she even deleted my phone number, so she didn't plan to come back), she asked me to go to a restaurant, we took a taxi and she enforced that on me and when we got there i've found out that she even paid a hotel room, i didn't liked it at all, but still we had sex in that day. After that, we had many happy moments, great moments, but after a while she told me that we should take it slow, she doesn't know me well, and we should start knowing eachother like normal people do without sex or kissing (just imagine what it was in my head), so i accepted it. We started this way, everything was great and and she was happy till friday night when she started to text me if i'm at home, if i'm awake. i answer the text message, after that she asked me why it takes 20minutes to answer a damn text, I told her that I don't have the phone on me and i'm working on some stuff. After that she didn't answer any of my messages, calls etc. and I've sent her one last text: "it's over for good and I don't want see you anymore, not even as friends, never try to contact me again, this time I won't come back" a few hours later i herd my parents talking that some guy sent her flowers via a cab driver and she whoosh outside. and he heard, "hey!!! you shouldn't have!!". I don't know what i did wrong, but i think some women don't know what they want.... Edit: sorry if my English is bad, i forghot to mention that before me, she had a 5 year relationship and the guy cheated on her and she found them one day in bed. Edited October 15, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Philosoraptor Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 She has no idea what she wants and really needs a reality check and to grow up. Just stay away from this nutter and find someone who is a bit more mature.
Author nyl Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 the problem is that my dad and her dad have the highest functions in that company, and i handle the IT sector. and a lot of equipment, the server, etc. etc. is in the room next to her bureau... How should I handle her from now on? (when i get called because of issues that are there, i'm toast!!!)
Chi townD Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Dude, sorry to say this, but you were her play thing and nothing more. She wanted to keep you a secret, she took you out to dinner and then to a hotel without informing you about it first. Never even considered that, that might not be what you like or are interested in. As you stated (if I'm reading it correctly) that you like to get to know a girl first before you go to that stage in a relationship. You were her boy toy that she didn't take seriously. I mean, come on! Girls LOVE to show off their boyfriends! They LOVE to inform the world that they have a new man in their lives. They love walking down the street with their heads held high as they're walking arm and arm with you. Not keep you a secret and ask you not to tell anyone about your relationship. That should have told you something was off at that point. Dude, you need to write her off and move on. You got used. But, you'll recover.
Author nyl Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Well i started to talk with a girl that is sweet and much open minded. My ex kept it a secret from parents and people that could tell her parents. in the rest we have done everything a normal couple would do, plus walks in the park every day, sports, etc. etc. I just don't want my ex come back in my life, out of nowhere like she did last time we split for a while. I really like this girl, she impressed me and i don't get impressed easily she also have similar perspectives to mine. I don't suffer for my ex, i've learned to get over breakups easily i'm curios if i did something wrong so i don't repeat it in the next relationship
robbysurfs Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Story my dad told me... There was a man on a beach and he found a magic lamp. He rubbed the lamp and a genie popped out and said "make one wish". The man said "I want a highway form my house to hawaii". The genie said "I don't think that can happen the ocean is to deep the pillars will never hold the barnacles and the storms tide ect. It wont work make another wish". The man said "I want to know everything about women, how they think and all the ins and the outs ect.".The genie looked at the man and said "So how many lanes you want on this highway"... Meaning good luck figuring that out some things are just not meant to be my friend...
crederer Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 If we're talking about metaphores dad's give... I used to play competitve baseball. My dad would always say "don't worry about getting a walk. A walk is as good as a hit. As long as you get on base, you've done your job. You're not going to get a homerun every time you step up to the plate". Needless to say, I've applied this to other areas of my life as well (if you catch my drift) lol! 1
Chi townD Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Dude, for whatever reason, she found it necessary to keep you secret from friends and family. That she was afraid or ashamed to say that she was your girl. That's not a good foundation for a relationship. So, keep that in mind if she ever contacts you again. As for the other girl, if you like her, then go with it! She sounds like the type of girl that would be proud to be your girlfriend!
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