6 weeks and had a relapse

[Sadguy33]

I was doing great, pushing her outbid my head but tonight I saw that she is doing great through social media. I blocked her, she blocked me but my crazy self just couldn't resist and the internetbus designed to make us lose our minds so I looked and saw. Her smiling, out drinking, talking to guys, and posted a pic of her and this guy she used to date that is a celebrity now. It just is too much how does she just do this? We dated for 5 years and she cheated on me, now this. Why!!!!!!!!

[AnnaAnna]

I'm so sorry about what you're going through. It really does get better but you have to be ready to let go. Social media websites are one of the worst things out there. You should have never looked to see what she was up to and once you decided to look you should have prepared yourself for anything. We expect out exes to sit and be sad like we are but the truth is they are not. They are out there having fun and enjoying themselves, possibly with other people. I really hope you can take some time to work on yourself. You need to move on and live your life. You never know what the future brings but it's possible your ex will not be there.

Again, I'm sorry for your pain. I understand the feeling because I looked at my exes page too and what I saw made me feel sick to my stomach.

[Sadguy33]

I also broke nc. Called her everything I could think of no response now... But will prob get one thing back in morning. I'm just so bitter I hate her so ducking much it really ****ing hurts

[AnnaAnna]

I also broke nc. Called her everything I could think of no response now... But will prob get one thing back in morning. I'm just so bitter I hate her so ducking much it really ****ing hurts

 

And that's ok. We are humans and we make mistakes. From now on, it's all about you. Don't message her anymore. NC is the only thing that will help you, trust me. That's the only way you will start healing.

You can do it!

[Friggia]

Here's to you finding even more happiness than you ever dreamed possible with a good woman who has a stellar personality and a good heart. When they have that, they become the most attractive and beautiful thing in your life. You don't need a woman who looks good on the outside but is abusive and extremely narcissistic on the inside.

[AnyaNova]

I know it really hurts. And it seems very unfair. It is. You have a right to grieve. There is much good advice here. Take care of yourself. Cry. Sleep. Eat healthfully. But right now, a good exercise first might be to remember all the good things about your ex that you miss. Write them down. Cry for them. Tear them up. Then remember all the reasons why you weren't a good couple (and even in good couples, there are always a few), or why you wouldn't have worked or things that annoyed you. Don't tear this list up. You will need to refer to it much in the coming weeks.

[Mr Scorpio]

I'm sorry you're going through that pain. The only thing to do is to keep on keeping on. Consider this a lesson. You knew that peeking via social-media was going to mess with your mind. But you did it anyway! Promise yourself right now that you aren't going to do it again. Remember how this pain feels for the next time you feel tempted to peek.

[flight E]

You are bordering about the social media when it can be tuned to show what the person wants you to see. My ex is always looking so happy on social media. But I saw her and she was looking so unhappy so distraught she couldn't look at my car. You couls see she was clearly sad. I can't say I was the cause of her sadness. But she was not herself. So don't take social media seriously. People let you see what they want you to see.

[faithfully]

This is why social media is bull and causes soo much pain and problems. Delete and activate it. Thats what ive done. You can always go back to it once you have healed. But de-activate it for now